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Everything else in my head right now is too big to tackle so I'll start with this: My eyes are too big. No they aren't. Being big makes them a feature and they're pretty to look at. That's a step Sent from my SPH-D710 using Tapatalk __________________ Am I the only one I know, waging my wars behind my face and above my throat? Diagnosed: BPD PTSD |
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Yes, humans like big eyes in other people, although I don't see your eyes as particularly big to be honest.
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The opposite of weird really, sounds like you just identified the source of your eye-based insecurity.
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I really would. I think it would be fascinating to be able to compare that list with how other people actually perceive you. I'm sure there would be a HUGE discrepancy. ...The crazy, negative stuff a person tells themself about themself... and is so willing and eager to believe to be true. Yet, they find it so easy to NOT believe the really good positive stuff. Amazing. Have you ever noticed that? I sure have... Dan |
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The list of things I don't like about myself is expansive. I'm trying to slowly alter this, but 24 years of beating it into my head is a hard thing to break, you know? Sent from my SPH-D710 using Tapatalk __________________ Am I the only one I know, waging my wars behind my face and above my throat? Diagnosed: BPD PTSD |
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I guess it must be an intrinsic human trait to think in such a screwy way because almost everyone seems to think that way. Hell, even after being married to the same woman for close to 39 years, whenever she compliments me on something I still tell her something like "well, there's no accounting for some people's taste" or some other such silliness. I mean, I like myself pretty much most of the time. But whenever someone, even my wife, says something nice about me, I have to quickly challenge their mental competence in believing such drivel, and having the audacity to share it with ME of all people! Well, I'll tell you what. You say you have an expansive "to-do" list eh? I'll save you a lot of time and fussing about if you'd like. OK? Yeah, just send me a copy of your list and I'll cross off everything on it that's not true. I'm SURE I'd be able to have that list whittled down to maybe a few items in nothing flat. Whaddya think? You think it's hard getting rid of things that were beaten into your head for 24 years? Ha! Try shaking out 60 years worth of screwy thoughts! Trust me, you're MUCH better off getting rid of that useless kind of nonesense while you still only have that much to get rid of! As far as beating more crap into your head? Well, just stop it. You KNOW how silly you're being when you attempt to cram stuff into your head that doesn't belong there! So, just don't do it! Or, at least if you have to fill your head with nonesense, perhaps you can use "nonsense-lite" so it isn't quite as filling and doesn't leave you feeling bloated and worthless. OK? Have fun! Dan'l |
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It's safer to not acknowledge that you're beautiful though isn't it? There's something there that tells you, "Hide in here behind this guise of being icky. You'll be safe in here. If you let yourself think you're pretty and something contradicts that then you'll be hurt so hide here with me and let's just be gross." Don't let that delusion win. You're beautiful. |
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At any rate... My gut feeling tells me that you brush off compliments because you don't feel worthy of them... and that you don't think you're as good as people think. I suspect that you fear that some day the people that complimented you will find out that they were wrong... and you'll be found out as being a fraud by accepting their compliments and praise... that you accepted something you weren't worthy of. I think that in your mind it's much better to keep telling yourself that you aren't worthy of praise so you won't ever have to feel like you were mislead into believing something that wasn't true. I think that in your mind, when people eventually find out that you aren't as good as they think, it'll be much easier for you to be able to tell them, "SEE! I told you I wasn't as good as you thought I was! I told you that you were wrong about me!" I think you need to give yourself that escape route... one that allows you to validate the fact that you aren't good enough... and that you told everybody you weren't when you didn't accept their compliment. So, when someone tells you that you're sexy and beautiful, you're sure that they'll find out some day that your aren't sexy and you aren't beautiful...so you feel the need to set them straight... and not accept a compliment that might set you up for being a fraud... By not accepting a compliment you've created an out for yourself. You can tell them that you TOLD them they got it all wrong about you when you didn't accept their compliment! OR It's very possible... nay... PROBABLE, that I'm completely full of prunes and everything I just spewed was utter rubbish! Dan |
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I don't know if that feeling of inferiority to my family and sister has anything to do with my current feelings, but I think it supports your theory. Sent from my SPH-D710 using Tapatalk __________________ Am I the only one I know, waging my wars behind my face and above my throat? Diagnosed: BPD PTSD |
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I dunno...
I always find it so amazing how a child can live with their parents for so few years, yet they spend the rest of their lives trying to fix the damage done to them in those important first years. I know that most parents are doing the best they can. In fact, though, most parents are about as ready to raise a child as they are to fly to the moon. Most parents are doomed to repeat the mistakes of their own parents because that's all they know. Anyway... What a shame. Dan |
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#39
Ok you can't name a thread Sex Video with no actual sex video. That's false advertising. The title should have been, "Sex Video-coming soon(maybe)"
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Please know that when I talk about parents mucking up their children I'm not being judgemental or making it into a good or bad thing. So, I wasn't talking about placing blame for anything on anybody. I mean, heck, I consider my wife and myself to be pretty darned good parents. But still, we did a couple of things that I wish we hadn't done and I think our daughter had to struggle to overcome our "mistakes". Anyway... I know that it is what it is and placing blame is a senseless, self-defeating and destructive thing to do to one's self. Although I know that sometimes it's almost impossible to NOT want to blame someone for something they did that affects you in a negative way. It human nature to do so. Dan |
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