[Squirrel1983]

How do you know if you are gay or straight?

I mean I have never been interested in men (I am a female), but at the same time I have never been interested in women either.

If I am not attracted to either, what does that make me? A mutant?

I've tried dating guys a few times, but it always ends up with them getting mad because I am not "physical" enough with them (I will push them away from even kissing me). I have never dated a girl on the otherhand (I was always taught that that was "wrong" growing up...my parents were far right-wing...but I am not so sure now).

I have a problem with female doctors for some reason unknown to me...I just prefer males...so maybe that means I am straight, I dunno.

I don't want to spend the rest of my life alone. I'd like to have somone to spend it with, but I just don't know enough about myself to know what I want.

[doggiedo]

Do women attract u more than men? Maybe u are just asexual?? That means u aren't attracted to either (I think).

Maybe talk to your doc about it. It could be you have a hormonal imbalance- bloodwork would help rule that out. Have you had any trauma in your life that might impact your view about attraction, relationships, etc? Just a thought.

Sometimes I think the same thing- what am I? But, on a good day, and when I'm feeling confident, I tell myself to just go with the flow. You can't make yourself love someone or be attracted to a specific sex. If you are, you are. If you aren't, you aren't.

Sorry you are so confused- hope u get the answers you are looking for.

[Pandoren]

Yeah, asexuality is not experiencing sexual attraction to either sex. Some asexuals do still desire romantic relationships though, they just don't feel the need to express their love through sexual means (although they can do if they want to). Others feel the need for close friendships for that lifelong company.

Definitely have a read up about asexuality and see how you feel about it, even if you eventually decide it doesn't apply to you. There's also a big community boards on the internet where you can talk to lots of people in the same boat.

The answer's an uncomfortable one i'm afraid - you may never know. It's how you deal with the uncertainty or to put it a better way, how you work with what you do know.

So you don't feel sexual attraction - not that uncommon and plenty of people feel the same if you know where to look for them. Try this sort of relationship if you can and see how it fits, don't be surprised if your feelings change depend on who you are with. This is normal. On the other hand they may not and you may feel closer to answering your question. Again, normal.

I guess you can only keep exploring and come to know more about yourself as and when it happens - there are many schools of thought when it comes to sexuality but it's about what works for YOU. Don't forget that.