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#1
Jan 18, 2014, 10:20 PM
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Does anyone else feel awkward during this moment? Males or females.
I suppose it's the most intimate moment, which is why I feel almost embarrassed to do it. It's when my partner turns from a human being into a sexual being and this is why it's so weird for me I think. |
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#2
Jan 19, 2014, 03:42 AM
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not really.
Do you have sexual anxiety in general? |
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Jan 19, 2014, 02:20 PM
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I haven't felt awkward about entering my partner but I have thought of it as somewhat of a violent act. When I am in a heightened sexual state I tend to be aggressive as I penetrate her. But she says it's that initial entry that gives her the most pleasure. Because of this I will often spend some time just penetrating and completely withdrawing repeatedly but I don't thrust my penis all the way in, just the head and maybe a bit more. After a while she tell me to put it all the way in. It's exciting to me to watch as my penis enters her.
When I have mentioned to her about my thought of it being a violent act, she says she doesn't see it that way. All she knows is the sensations she feels during the initial penetration is the best part besides the orgasm. |
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Jan 20, 2014, 07:17 AM
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You bet I do. Even after 13 years of marriage I still half expect her to ask, "Okay, is it in yet?"
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| CantExplain
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#5
Jan 20, 2014, 02:46 PM
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If it makes you feel better as a female that's my favorite part too.
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#6
Jan 21, 2014, 06:03 AM
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I guess I feel nervous about it because it does feel like an aggressive act. My partner has been encouraging me to be aggressive at times but it doesn't come naturally at all. |
| Webgoji
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#7
Jan 21, 2014, 02:10 PM
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Something about connecting that way. It just makes it special.
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#8
Jan 21, 2014, 02:26 PM
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That is still the most unnerving part. I have been having sex with my H for 20 years and it still is kinda weird. Is it gonna be to much to the left or to much to the right or to far back, to far forward, to hard, to dry, good grief, oh the worries.
But I must agree as a female the entrance is the best part. If your gf wants more aggression you don't have to take it out all the way. Once you get it at the angle she is looking for, only remove partially then when you go for it again you don't have to worry so much about the angle or what ever. Then you can be as aggressive as she or you likes. |
| hamster-bamster
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#9
Jan 22, 2014, 12:18 AM
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What if she she jumped you? Same or different?
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Jan 23, 2014, 12:35 AM
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Different if she is initiating the penetration.
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Jan 23, 2014, 12:53 AM
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Then you can relax and enjoy, right? There is a partial solution, at least.
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Jan 23, 2014, 04:58 AM
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Yes, I am comfortable with this when she initiates and is on top of me. It's only when she wants me to be more aggressive and initiate that I am awkward.
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| Webgoji
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#13
Jan 23, 2014, 07:36 AM
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You're not a naturally aggressive guy are you Illegal Toilet? You're a nice guy that is more concerned with the emotional side of things as opposed to ... shall I say "tappin' dat"?
I'm seeing this more and more where one partner will want the other to do something that is out of their character. Such as spankings or being rough and aggressive or hair-pulling or whatnot. I'm not sure what the solution is, but I find it ... curious ... that someone would ask a loved one to act out of character. Especially when it's being aggressive when that person is clearly not. |
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Jan 23, 2014, 08:41 PM
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Yes Web, I think I am more concerned with the emotional side, and I also am concerned that my partner will be scared by my aggression if i unleash it during intercourse.
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| Webgoji
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Jan 23, 2014, 11:59 PM
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I've never felt this. I've only felt insatiable in that moment and lust really. I just want it. Like right then.
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Jan 24, 2014, 11:52 AM
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My H wants me to put thigh highs and high heels on .
I feel cheap and used 
Last edited by wife22; Jan 24, 2014 at 12:59 PM. |
| Truth in Ruin, Webgoji
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#17
Jan 24, 2014, 02:11 PM
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If you are worried she won't like it you can make safe words. So if she says the safe word you know she wants you to stop.
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#18
Jan 24, 2014, 07:23 PM
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wife22, don't do anything you are uncomfortable doing, that is not what sex is about.
IT, don't do anything you are uncomfortable doing, that is not what sex is about. |
| Truth in Ruin, wife22
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