Straight men wearing lingerie only during sex

Lynn smith 622 · Feb 18, 2014 at 12:00 PM

I'm confused, anyone understand straight men who like to wear lingerie , shoes when masturbating or during sex, the cross dressing seemed to start when he was 10

Webgoji · Feb 19, 2014 at 03:21 PM

I can't say I truly understand, but I do know of guys that enjoy it. They say they like the feel of lingerie and stuff. The soft, satiny feeling. It's not that uncommon.

Hmm .. an odd thought just crossed my mind. If a man wears a woman's shoes it's cross-dressing, but if a woman runs around with her husband's shirt on it isn't. I don't get it ...

LiteraryLark · Feb 19, 2014 at 04:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Webgoji

Hmm .. an odd thought just crossed my mind. If a man wears a woman's shoes it's cross-dressing, but if a woman runs around with her husband's shirt on it isn't. I don't get it ...

Double standards.

LiteraryLark · Feb 19, 2014 at 04:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Lynn smith 622

I'm confused, anyone understand straight men who like to wear lingerie , shoes when masturbating or during sex, the cross dressing seemed to start when he was 10

Maybe he watched Rocky Horror one too many times.

I think it simply means that he's comfortable with his sexuality much like women who wear corsets and lingerie, it just feels sexy.

And honestly, I find that very attractive in a straight man!

Middlemarcher · Feb 20, 2014 at 10:21 AM

Judging from your other posts, it seems that you're having trouble understanding and accepting your partner's crossdressing. Have you talked with him much about it? Sincerely and non-judgmentally asked your questions?

Googling will turn up a lot of information on this subject. A lot of men who cross-dress don't even know why they like to do it. Some men just like feel of lingerie. Some men want to get in touch with a feminine side. Some men may have gone from being aroused by looking at women in lingerie to fetishizing the lingerie itself. Some submissive men enjoy being humiliated (forced cross-dressing being a practice in this case). The list goes on and on.

CantExplain · Feb 21, 2014 at 03:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Lynn smith 622

I'm confused, anyone understand straight men who like to wear lingerie , shoes when masturbating or during sex, the cross dressing seemed to start when he was 10

Yup, I like dressing up for sex. There's really nothing to understand, nothing to explain. I just like it and it feels right.

Can anyone help me understand why that should be a problem?

Pleasefreeme · Feb 21, 2014 at 03:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Lynn smith 622

I'm confused, anyone understand straight men who like to wear lingerie , shoes when masturbating or during sex, the cross dressing seemed to start when he was 10

Hi Lynn, I used to chat to a cross dresser online. I'm a straight female but it opened my mind...he said it makes him feel closer to the woman, to understand how women feel too, and even sometimes in a mother/son way. I suppose it's always nice when we know some men are in touch with their feminine side, even if it's in a different way to what we perceive as 'normal'. Whoever you know that is like this is no less of a man, and maybe even more of one??!!

hamster-bamster · Feb 22, 2014 at 02:01 AM

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Originally Posted by CantExplain

Yup, I like dressing up for sex. There's really nothing to understand, nothing to explain. I just like it and it feels right.

Can anyone help me understand why that should be a problem?

OP never said that it SHOULD be a problem. I can't speak for her, but for me it would be a problem due to my fairly narrow range of acceptable virility. I do however have a guy friend who wears patent leather pumps to work. He is adorable. Nice, intelligent, you name it. I can't picture having sex with him, though. It is not only due to his being outside of my range of acceptable virility, but, even more so, it would be too funny

Feb 22, 2014 at 07:28 AM

If a guy wants to dress in women's clothes and underwear then that's his life, his decision. But likewise, the OP doesn't have to be accepting of it and shouldn't be made to feel in the wrong just because that's how she feels about the situation.

Webgoji · Feb 22, 2014 at 08:40 AM

Dude, this has been something I've wondered for a long time:

5 Girly Things Guys Really Like

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I learned this during a moment of necessity: I hadn't done laundry in a while and I got caught short when someone came to the door, so I threw on a University of Texas women's T-shirt belonging to my wife, Karel. It was a little snug, but, wow, it felt like I was being hugged all over by a fuzzy Labrador puppy. Men's T-shirts, by contrast, feel like wearing a layer of sandpaper. In order to get a guy's T-shirt to the standard level of softness and comfort that a woman's T-shirt starts with, you have to work out in it for three weeks straight, leave it outdoors through an entire rainy season, and wash it 65 times. Then you're rewarded with a month of happy wearing before it falls apart.

It's so true though. My t-shirts are stiff, rough and uncomfortable. On the other hand, my wife's t-shirts are soft and ... well, that's all I know. I can barely keep her from wearing all my clothes, much less ever put on one of her t-shirts. (She's even stolen my socks and underwear! Bet my boxers didn't fit quite right in the front

)

So yeah, while I wouldn't wear lingerie, I can see where guys come from ... and I can see where women would think it's weird ... even though she's wearing your boxers while thinking it's weird.

AVPont · Mar 11, 2014 at 05:39 PM

Here's an article which may help you to understand this

:

**insidelowselfesteem.blogspot.co.uk/2014/03/sissies-and-sissy-porn-understood.html**

CantExplain · Mar 13, 2014 at 01:55 PM

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Originally Posted by AVPont

Here's an article which may help you to understand this

:

**insidelowselfesteem.blogspot.co.uk/2014/03/sissies-and-sissy-porn-understood.html**

Yuck! That article is not at all supportive.
I don't buy the "low self esteem" line.

Middlemarcher · Mar 13, 2014 at 03:26 PM

There's a huge gap between "likes to wear women's lingerie" and "identifies as a sissy, is into humiliation," etc.

RTerroni · Mar 13, 2014 at 03:54 PM

I used to have a lingerie fetish when I was younger but I slowly grew out of it.

hamster-bamster · Mar 18, 2014 at 12:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Webgoji

Dude, this has been something I've wondered for a long time:

5 Girly Things Guys Really Like

It's so true though. My t-shirts are stiff, rough and uncomfortable. On the other hand, my wife's t-shirts are soft and ... well, that's all I know. I can barely keep her from wearing all my clothes, much less ever put on one of her t-shirts. (She's even stolen my socks and underwear! Bet my boxers didn't fit quite right in the front

)

So yeah, while I wouldn't wear lingerie, I can see where guys come from ... and I can see where women would think it's weird ... even though she's wearing your boxers while thinking it's weird.

because T-shirts are what is called unisex. They are not masculine, but unisex. Socks are unisex, too. Feminine lingerie is not unisex. It is asymmetrical. It is the same with handbags - some handbags are purely for women, but others (those big briefcases that female and male lawyers alike carry) are unisex. Asymmetrical.

hamster-bamster · Mar 18, 2014 at 12:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Middlemarcher

There's a huge gap between "likes to wear women's lingerie" and "identifies as a sissy, is into humiliation," etc.

Would you please say "play humiliation" rather than "humiliation" in your posts from now on? Just four more letters, but the difference is night and day.

There are people who are humiliated against their will, and the word "humiliation" is reserved to describe their experiences, and only their experiences. If a "sissy" or whoever wants "humiliation", it is not real humiliation, but play humiliation, or pretend humiliation. I do not insist on my word choice, but there should be some word choice you are comfortable with that sets the experiences of "sissies" or whoever those people are apart from the experiences of people who are humiliated without asking for it. It is simply deeply disrespectful towards people who are humiliated for real, and not for play, to treat humiliation as non-chalanantly as you did in your post. One cannot be "into humiliation", that I can tell you for sure. So please watch what you say.

CantExplain · Mar 18, 2014 at 02:20 AM

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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster

because T-shirts are what is called unisex. They are not masculine, but unisex. Socks are unisex, too. Feminine lingerie is not unisex. It is asymmetrical. It is the same with handbags - some handbags are purely for women, but others (those big briefcases that female and male lawyers alike carry) are unisex. Asymmetrical.

You say "unisex", but in fact, women have usurped all the accessories that used to be exclusively male. Once women started wearing argyle, men were left with no way to express their masculinity in clothes.

Maybe I'm going too far, but it does look like there is "unisex" and "female" clothing and nothing left for men.

PS: Incidentally, this can be tough on women too. There is no way a woman can cross-dress!

Mar 18, 2014 at 03:49 AM

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Originally Posted by CantExplain

You say "unisex", but in fact, women have usurped all the accessories that used to be exclusively male. Once women started wearing argyle, men were left with no way to express their masculinity in clothes.

Maybe I'm going too far, but it does look like there is "unisex" and "female" clothing and nothing left for men.

PS: Incidentally, this can be tough on women too. There is no way a woman can cross-dress!

Well we don't express our masculinity by dressing up like a woman. Lingerie is designed for women to show of a woman's curves.

Then again, anything to do with being masculine is looked down upon. Men are being told we have to be more in touch with "our emotions" and less stoic as an example.

Webgoji · Mar 18, 2014 at 06:28 AM

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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster

because T-shirts are what is called unisex. They are not masculine, but unisex. Socks are unisex, too. Feminine lingerie is not unisex. It is asymmetrical. It is the same with handbags - some handbags are purely for women, but others (those big briefcases that female and male lawyers alike carry) are unisex. Asymmetrical.

I have to disagree.

Just look at the fit and cut of my wife's T-shirts compared to mine. Hers are narrow in the waist while mine are cut more V-shaped with longer sleeves and broader shoulders. There are definitely men's and women's t-shirts. Socks are the same way, there are definite differences between her socks and mine. Underwear? Woo! Talk about differences, nothing unisex there. My wife's football jerseys are the same way, mine is cut for putting pads under it, hers is narrow at the waist with slim shoulders (although she still wears her red and gold, not pink).

Here's a woman's jersey (and a good one at that

)

And here's a men's:
Straight men wearing lingerie only during sex

Notice the significant difference in the way they're cut?

It's just that it's okay for a woman to throw on a big frumpy football jersey and a pair of boxers and be comfy on the couch, but if a man grabs a soft narrow t-shirt and slim panties he's cross-dressing. The truth is that it's a double standard (and one of the few that work in women's favor).

I just find it curious.

Webgoji · Mar 18, 2014 at 06:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Lycanthrope

Well we don't express our masculinity by dressing up like a woman. Lingerie is designed for women to show of a woman's curves.

Then again, anything to do with being masculine is looked down upon. Men are being told we have to be more in touch with "our emotions" and less stoic as an example.

I think you're correct Lycanthrope. You're mentioning the emotions opens a huge can of worms. Men are being expected to be both strong and emotionless, but caring and crying with the ability to change and adapt depending on the mood and situation around them. The expectations that are being placed on men these days are furthering to confuse them in their place in society and their roles in everything from work to relationships to parenting.

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Lynn smith 622 Junior Member Member Since Feb 2014 Location: Midwest Posts: 7 10	Feb 18, 2014 at 12:00 PM #1 I'm confused, anyone understand straight men who like to wear lingerie , shoes when masturbating or during sex, the cross dressing seemed to start when he was 10

Webgoji Grand Magnate Member Since Aug 2013 Location: Wichita, Ks Posts: 3,535 11 993 hugs given	Feb 19, 2014 at 03:21 PM #2 I can't say I truly understand, but I do know of guys that enjoy it. They say they like the feel of lingerie and stuff. The soft, satiny feeling. It's not that uncommon. Hmm .. an odd thought just crossed my mind. If a man wears a woman's shoes it's cross-dressing, but if a woman runs around with her husband's shirt on it isn't. I don't get it ...

Anonymous200125 Guest Posts: n/a	Feb 22, 2014 at 07:28 AM #9 If a guy wants to dress in women's clothes and underwear then that's his life, his decision. But likewise, the OP doesn't have to be accepting of it and shouldn't be made to feel in the wrong just because that's how she feels about the situation.

AVPont New Member Member Since Oct 2013 Posts: 2 11	Mar 11, 2014 at 05:39 PM #11 Here's an article which may help you to understand this : insidelowselfesteem.blogspot.co.uk/2014/03/sissies-and-sissy-porn-understood.html

Middlemarcher Member Member Since May 2013 Location: USA Posts: 360 11 320 hugs given	Mar 13, 2014 at 03:26 PM #13 There's a huge gap between "likes to wear women's lingerie" and "identifies as a sissy, is into humiliation," etc.

RTerroni Elder Member Since Sep 2013 Location: USA Posts: 5,751 11 2,136 hugs given	Mar 13, 2014 at 03:54 PM #14 I used to have a lingerie fetish when I was younger but I slowly grew out of it. __________________ COVID-19 Survivor- 4/26/2022