[twiddles]

I am a 25 year old female with a child who is 4 years old. For most of my later teenage years I had a normal sex drive. Before I became pregnant I started losing interest in sex. During my pregnancy my sex drive was insatiable, however shortly after I had her it started declining again. I have a want for companionship, but intimacy seems pointless, even irritating at times. I have a healthy relationship now, but I dont want sex. I feel attraction and on occassion I still get aroused, but I dont want physical intimacy. My question is can you just become asexual, or is it maybe something else going on. Hormone levels are all normal, physically im healthy, I just dislike sex. It feels like a chore more than pleasure to allow someone to touch me in a sexual manner. Kissing, hugging, holding hands, its all obnoxious and seems like a waste of time. Im starting to feel like I dont even want the relationship part because I know how most people in general put emphasis on the physical part. Is it weird to want to be with someone and have a loving relationship without any kind of sexual touch ever?

[LavenderFruitNinja]

Sexuality is said to be fluid, and possible to change at any time, since it is on a spectrum. I'm no expert, but not wanting sexual things while still liking a romantic relationship is completely normal. Sexuality also has a romantic spectrum, and so most asexuals are not automatically aromantic (not feeling any romantic attraction), but can also have a spectrum of who they are attracted to romantically.

[twiddles]

It's hard for me to accept t that I have changed so much. I haven't really been able to express things to my boyfriend either as I'm worried he will not be able to understand. Im still not able to understand what changed so dramatically. One day it was a fun free feeling. ... the next it was unnecessary effort and sometimes causes a bit of a bad mood when it comes up in any conversation.

[CantExplain]

Having a young child in the house can be a serious drain on a woman's libido.

[RTerroni]

Yes you can, I believe that I became Asexual sometime during my childhood/adolescence phase

[Melmo]

Glad I not the only one, although it sucks your going through it. I'm 26 and my daughter is also 4. Usually in the beginning of a relationship I want sex but then after 2-3 weeks I'm uninterested. I'm tired all the time, don't feel good etc and I usually do it anyway because I feel bad, feel like I should, don't wanna deal with the hassle of not.
Having a low sex drive sucks.