I feel this feeling of being in Questioning off and on like I don't think I am a lesbian because I'm attracted to men but I don't think I am straight either because I enjoy those dirty Cosplay pics of women on Facebook pages but I've never had sex with a woman so idk I sometimes lose interest in sex with men but too scared to have sex with a woman or no interest cause she grossed me out but I've been attracted to others is it that it needs to be the right woman or am I overthinking it? I think I would if I was attracted and comfortable with a woman. Ugh I've been curious since 16 I just don't wanna jump in bed with a woman for the heck of it ... Opinions?

[Sam2]

Many people go through a period of being unsure of their sexual orientation. Although sex is part of a relationship, it doesn't mean you have to hop in the sack on the first date. Try starting with dating a woman who is sure she is a lesbian. Take it slow and see if dating a lesbian feels right. Relationships aren't just sex. They are also about trust, friendship, sharing. If you just go out looking for another woman to have sex with to see if you are ok with it, you may wind up more confused than you are now.

If you are comfortable with the date, let her know that you are unsure an need to go slow. There is nothing wrong with that. Being compatible in the sac alone isn't enough. Our society seem to push us there faster than it should. There are probably online dating services for lesbians and gay people. See how comfortable you.

sam2

[AppalachianAxis]

As so many will tell you, sexuality is fluid. It does not neatly fit into one category. It shifts, changes, and occasional does these really weird twisty thingys.
For example, I'm a guy who would probably classify myself as "straight" but I find the male body to be stupidly arousing for some reason (Well, below the neck anyway, Dud faces gross me out.) But I would never. Never-ever-ever-ever-ever consider doing it with a guy. Hell, I'd never do it with anyone period, no matter the gender.

Point is, trying to fit yourself into one of the labels that we've created for sexuality (Gay, Straight, Bi, etc.) Is going because more uncertainty than not because, like I said, sexuality has a nasty habit of pulling these bizarre u-turns on us.

[Webgoji]

Originally Posted by AppalachianAxis

As so many will tell you, sexuality is fluid. It does not neatly fit into one category. It shifts, changes, and occasional does these really weird twisty thingys.
For example, I'm a guy who would probably classify myself as "straight" but I find the male body to be stupidly arousing for some reason (Well, below the neck anyway, Dud faces gross me out.) But I would never. Never-ever-ever-ever-ever consider doing it with a guy. Hell, I'd never do it with anyone period, no matter the gender.

Point is, trying to fit yourself into one of the labels that we've created for sexuality (Gay, Straight, Bi, etc.) Is going because more uncertainty than not because, like I said, sexuality has a nasty habit of pulling these bizarre u-turns on us.

Well said!

As AppalacianAxis said, sexuality isn't black and whit, but fills the whole spectrum from straight to gay. You've got people that are on one end or the other (very straight or very gay) and then you've got a whole world in between. For example, my wife is a little bi-curious. She would never want to sleep with a woman, but enjoys watching them have sex together. So she doesn't fit into the completely straight category, but doesn't fit the bi category either.

So don't worry about what category you fit into, just be who you are.

Thank you all for your replies . I am in a relationship with a man so dating a lesbian unless current relationship falls through won't happen I have dated a lesbian before but her and I's personality clashed and were better off friends so I think if it happens it happens I won't rush into sex just will see if one day I meet a lesbian who is the one I'm comfortable dating and taking it slow it will happen I am just confused the labels messed me up