Soo confused

I'm very confused and frustrated about my sexuality. I can acknowledge that some guys are attractive, but I've never had a true, heart wrenching, butterflies in the stomach crush on a guy. Men just seem so out of the question for me- I'm not sure whether that's because I may view them as one dimensional and generalise them. On the other hand, I've always felt more connected and closer to women; and recently I've been forming strong infatuation like feelings on famous gay women, such as Tegan and Sara etc. So this means I'm gay right? Well to make it confusing, while I feel closer and have even felt 'crush' like feelings for some of my female friends- I have never had any real sexual thoughts to go along with these feelings. Whenever I sort of imagine anything sexual happening, it just seems strange and I dismiss it immediately. I have in past imagined sexual things happening with men and it sat easier with me. Any thoughts?

Confusion is normal and very common place. Don't fret over it too much. If you don't feel comfortable identifying as homosexual, then don't. There is no need nor urgency to label your sexual identity.

Agree with the poster above. Our sexualities change, grow, mutate, etc. There is no gay/straight binary -- there is just sexuality. I think society's tendency to box things into the binary imposes unnecessary mental stress upon people.

Embrace your sexuality, regardless of its current or future forms. Respect and acknowledge the people you come across in whatever way seems honest. Acknowledge beauty in the way you feel is appropriate. Think men are cute? Great. Think women are cute? Great. Want to have sex with a woman and not a man? Great. Go with the flow.

There are times when I've felt "homosexual", "heterosexual", "bisexual". Now I know that I'm just sexual. I go with things as they are, and people can either accept me that way or not. I don't care. Not overthinking and just accepting -- that's an easier way to be happy.

Good luck.

May I ask how old you are?

That's very, very true- and congrats on being at that point in your life! I still feel as though I haven't even reached the 'sexual' part of sexuality yet. All in the natural progression I suppose.

I'm 19, turning 20 soon.