Polyamory

Anyone here in a poly relationship ? This is something I've been interested in for over 2 1/2 years, and I just met (well, on facebook) a married couple who is looking for a woman to join them.
Just wondering if there's any like minded people on here.

I haven't taken the chance to try that yet, no. In the back of my mind, I've always wanted to try that, but I don't see it happening for me now…I can't seem to find any pleasure being with another person. I would imagine in my case that would just cause me to be completely left out and they would do their thing together and forget that I was even there.

I would be curious to hear from people who've actually tried it and if it's possible to enjoy it if you don't enjoy sex with just one other person.

This is quite a personal subject for me so i won't go into detail but from what i know, it rarely works out and is usually better achieved with the same kind of love shared equally between each person. I don't know your sexuality so won't make any assumptions there but irrespective of that; if you intend to try and get involved with a married couple i would be upfront in asking about their expectations. Is this a novelty for them? Or is this something they've been seeking for quite some time? Are they experienced but just haven't found the right person? Is this something they only want on a more short term basis? Will you live with them? etc. etc. I suppose there's a juxtaposition in expecting people who engage in polyamory to remain exclusive past a certain point, but surely there has to be some security, some familiarity - otherwise it's arguably not a relationship at all. I hope you find what you're seeking and don't let anyone make you feel as though you're depraved. To quote Tolstoy; 'There are as many loves as there are hearts.' Good luck to you.

I donno, I know a poly group (four people) who are pretty happy together. It takes an intense kind of maturity I believe. I know many people in "not so normal" relationships and they seem better off than the typical romantic mono coupling. I guess because when you want something like this, you learn to cut the crap and act your age.

I've been polyamorous since my teens (I'm 47). I've tried monogamy a few times, and I can do it without problems (I've never cheated), but I'm happier in ethically non-monogamous relationships.

Yes, polyamory can definitely work, just as monogamy can work. Whether or not it will work with any particular set of people at any given time is another thing altogether. It depends on the people and the situation. It depends on the relationship skills present and the will to use them, and so much more.

I've heard polyamory described as the graduate school of relationship styles, and it is that in some ways. You're balancing the needs of at least two (maybe more) relationships at one time, while you also need to take care of yourself properly in order to be ABLE to be a healthy partner to anyone. The factors present in a triad, quad, or moresome usually mean that all the little things that we just let slide in a couple usually come to the surface more quickly as points of focus. Your communication, negotiation, consensus building, and time-management skills WILL be tested, repeatedly.

Lest this sound like all work and now reward - you have that much more love in your life, that many more wonderful partners to rely upon, that much more sex, and so on. Metamours (your partners' other partners) can become a wonderful network of friends.

I highly recommend a book called More Than Two by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert that will be released shortly (I read a prerelease copy) . It contains all kinds of information about polyamory, how to do it well, and how to learn from the many ways other people have screwed up doing it. The information on communication skills would be well worth the price of the book all by itself.

I am in a relationship I guess can be describes as polyamorous. I think it is more fulfilling than being in a monogamous relationship. But you have to be secure enough to not become jealous. If you have a tendency towards becoming jealous in relationships or in friendships, then it is not for you.

In my early 20's, I met a couple that I became friends with. We got along very well, and as a bisexual man, I considered at one point moving in with them as I felt an attraction to both of them. Unfortunately, before I was able to propose the idea, they moved away.