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Old Jul 09, 2014, 11:21 AM
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Hey, I'm in some desperate need of help. So my girlfriend has DID and she has this alter named Alex. Alex is a really great guy but he suffers from terrible depression and identity problems. He hates the body he is in. He is sort of "my gay lover". I call him my boyfriend and treated him like man. See, the only problem is I need she ways to make him feel more like a man when he is outwithout making my girlfriend's body permanently changed. I know itight be impossible bit I need help because I don't want to loose them over something I could fix.
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Old Jul 09, 2014, 11:16 PM
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Xaezel, Hello and welcome to PsychCentral.

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Old Jul 10, 2014, 06:27 AM
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I really don't have any recommendations, but I have to say that you are a very strong and compassionate person to be able to live with and support your partner. Most people would run for the hills if they had to become your girlfriend's alter gay-boyfriend.

My heart and thoughts go out to you. You are an example of compassion and understanding.
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Old Jul 10, 2014, 01:24 PM
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Hey, I'm in some desperate need of help. So my girlfriend has DID and she has this alter named Alex. Alex is a really great guy but he suffers from terrible depression and identity problems. He hates the body he is in. He is sort of "my gay lover". I call him my boyfriend and treated him like man. See, the only problem is I need she ways to make him feel more like a man when he is outwithout making my girlfriend's body permanently changed. I know itight be impossible bit I need help because I don't want to loose them over something I could fix.
Hello Xaezel: As I'm sure you realize, there are many types of men. Some are heavily into sports. Others (like me) have no interest in sports whatsoever. Some men are conscious of the way they dress, others don't give a hoot... and on, and on...

So I think before anyone could really give you any suggestions on this, they would need to know what kind of man Alex is. If my wife came home with tickets for a professional baseball game, I'd wonder what in heck was going on! Also, I don't know allot about DID, but I would presume that the fact that Alex is an alter, complicates this at least a bit.

So, can you add a "reply" here yourself & tell us more about what kind of man Alex is? What does he like? What types of situations does he typically come out in... for how long?

I'll tell you that I am an older male who has always felt as though I should have been female. It's called: Gender Identity Disorder. I have a feminine persona within me. She's not an alter. But I refer to her as my fraternal twin sister. And I say that, while she never developed physically, she exists within my psyche along with my male self. So, in a sense, it's not that different.

Good luck with this difficult situation. Feel free to personal message me about this if you want to.
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Old Jul 11, 2014, 01:09 AM
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Well, he's actually kind of a stereotypical nerd. He reads yaoi and he likes to be bottom. He doesn't enjoy vaginal sex or touching breasts. He only has ****. We are both big nerds actually. All of us are. He's a romantic like me. I don't have a problem bonding with him or having a good time. He just gets really sad about the whole body thing.
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