[lexxinski]

I'm single, I'm not in a relationship and I really like being abstinent i.e. no sex, no masturbation.

I can go on for weeks, but when it goes longer than 7 to 10 days Im starting to get somewhat irritable and also can't concentrate or don't want to focus on work, all I feel like doing is playing computer games and drinking alcohol i.e. having fun. So for that reason I need to relieve myself weekly, but I would really really like to stay abstinent for weeks at a time.

[Webgoji]

Sounds to me like it's not so much causing laziness as the rest of your life isn't stimulating the pleasure centers of your brain. All work and no play basically. So without a dopamine fix or oxytocin rush or whatever, after a week you will get irritated and short because frankly you need a break and need to have some fun like masturbation or games or whatnot.

[lexxinski]

Hmmm maaaybe

the rest of your life isn't stimulating the pleasure centers of your brain.

of this I should think long and hard...

[lexxinski]

Yes... Ive been thinking of what you said and we might be on to something here...

Addon. I find drawing helps me to stay balanced. Let's see if I want to do some work after I stop drawing.

Btw, it's my day 7 or 8.

[Artchic528]

I'm a little confused. Why do you like to abstain from masturbation when not in a relationship? I always thought it was exactly what one did when single, as a means to appease the pleasure center of the brain.

Maybe that's just me then.

[lexxinski]

well actually more than 80% men in a relationship masturbate too. i had a friend who had a wife and still did it every day. anyhoo, abstinence is a very nice experience, but it has side effects as i described above. you feel stronger, more confident, clearer thinking, improved mood. sexual energy is energy, so what im thinking now is that i need to find a way to channel it into creativity which is a higher level of sexual energy i.e. procreation=>creativity. when you release it via masturbation or sex that's how it is channeled i.e. via genitals, but ancient books say "blessed are those whose energy rise from under the naval up to the head"