[siniestro]

Hello all I'm new to this forum and this is my second post of the evening.

I am 33 male. I spend a lot of time fantasising about about having sex with other men, occasionally watch gay porn and go into chat rooms talking to men and sometimes going on webcam together and mutually masturbating. I'm not proud of this behaviour and it tends to make me feel numb afterwards. Only on one occassion have i had a physically intimate relationship with another man - i enjoyed it but had no desire for it to become a relationship.

I feel strongly attracted to women also, and have had intimate relationships with women. My longest relationship was 3 years. But now at 33 and single, I feel scared to be in a committed relationship for the fear of being trapped.

I am generally quite easy to get on with when I meet people in day to day life BUT i feel that with this uncertainty about my sexuality i am losing my sense of who i am.

[kaliope]

could it be that you are bowing to the pressures of society to identify your sexual identity? it is ok to not know. it is ok to explore and be uncertain. you dont have to put a label on yourself. i see all kinds of posts on here from people feeling guilty for what they do sexually and i believe this is because they feel they are going against societal norms and i will tell you what i tell them. screw social norms. as long as what you are doing brings you pleasure and is not harming anyone, do what ever you want. explore as long as your want, take your time and soon enough you will discover who you are.