does anyone have knowledge on this?

Ok. I maybe in a relationship with this girl Ann. She's a very bright genuine person who is the makings of a true lover and best friend. She has lots of potential of being someone who would stick by till the end. I couldn't ask for me if it happens, but we do have sexual tension it's brewing hot and passionate when we will see each other it will ignite.

Ok this is my one issue it's me...

She seems a true hearted person she sought me out. I'm afraid to objectify her as a fetish
hence why it be my second interracial relationship since my 2 girlfriend Zoe. My family and some family friends are racist to a degree I'm not. Not at all I see her not her skin. Like Zoe I did the same except she was a cold hearted person annas the opposite. She has a stable upbringing and great loving family. I'm kinda excited to date her to experience a person with such passion and caring for others and found me sexy was so amazing.

I fear ill say something stupid. My parents know most of my friends are black, but when I tell them who it's by their name. I have alot of other races of friends from Saudi Arabia, India, Pakistan, Latin American countries and Africa so on. My parents I mean my dad who I don't believe he is. He just say racist things in things he gets grouchy over. Ik he doesn't believe it by how he acts and talks.

Dating her isn't, "hey mom and dad I'm destroying the gene pool." Thing never has been besides my parents don't care unlike family friends we know who believe that garbage.

My point is I have a fetish for black women and I don't need that pornographic racist bigotry to be apart of me. She's not a piece of meat. I'm confused because I don't know what to do with my body feels. She seriously gets me off, but I had to take a step back re evaluate myself and force to think am I worried because I'm racist or not?.

Ik this may sound horrible I don't believe she is lesser or better so she doesn't know this. I don't patronize nor treat her any different in anything. I want her to be happy. I trust her and like her alot.

I fear sex would make this too obvious and I don't know how I should approach this within myself she did nothing wrong. I am worried what she thinks...

I felt the easiest option is to go with it. I don't feel shame if I have sex with her. I have had interracial sex once before it's the same as any other sex out their.

I'm afraid my fetish and I objectify and not appreciate over time because of something so stupid as skin color. Maybe I'm over thinking, but I want to love her not put her anywhere. I want her to be my best friend love has no bounds I'm white but she didn't care what others thought. I thought how affluent modest she is and how she treats me right is hot because our sex be passionate mutual and hot.

I hope this tension breaks we let loose on one another. Lets say her skin had nothing to do with her capturing me.

Any thoughts suggestions if we date? As for this thing and sex wise. It's not anywhere else I have this with her.

Btw my phone is a horrible auto correcting entity that will distort my stuff so keep in mind for text errors. I'll clarify them.

Simply put, you're fine, you're worrying needlessly.

If you were racist you wouldn't be worrying ;-)

I agree with Phreak, if you were racist, you wouldn't be worrying. Most people have their preferences with skin color. Personally, I'd prefer to date white/caucasian/european people, but I've also have had feelings towards people with different skin colors. No matter what your skin color, there are people who prefer to either date people of their own skin color or a certain skin color, and there's nothing wrong with that. It doesn't make you racist, it's the same as people wanting to date someone taller or shorter or younger or older than they are.

Be honest with her. Let her know you are attracted to women of color, but you see her as so much more than just that. It's not all that different than noticing a woman because of she was wearing a nice dress, then getting to know her and finding out she is more than what she was wearing that night. Yes I get I'm making a horrible metaphor comparing a dress and someone's race, but just taking things to the extreme to try to make a point. First impressions do count, but after that first impression if you find the person is a jerk your out of there, but if your lucky and they are a great person, they why would the reason you were first attracted to her be a big deal, as long as you really like who they are as a person.

I agree with the others. You are worrying needlessly, and that in an of itself says you aren't racist.It's obvious you care for her very much. Everyone has likes and kinks ect...it's not a bad thing. I felt shame for my kinks for a very long time until I found someone who shared them and made me believe it was ok to embrace them.

I'm not with her anymore. It's fine didn't bother me she was a half a.. Friend anyways