[someonelse]

Hey,
Im 27 gay male, who was never raped (thanks god).
Recently i came across two similat and very crazy stories of two guys i had sex with.
They both told me that they were completly straight with no thoughts about gay sex at all, and after the traumatic rape they started to have gay sexually desires. One of them was raped in old age, late 20's, and he still bisexual. The other one was raped at the age of 16-17, and now he define himself as totaly gay. All that after a complite staright life including relationships and everything.

Is all that makes any sense?! Does we have more records of similar phenomenon at sceintific psychology literature?
Im very interested by those stories and wanting to hear your toughts.
Thanks

[loveyouhun]

Originally Posted by someonelse

Hey,
Im 27 gay male, who was never raped (thanks god).
Recently i came across two similat and very crazy stories of two guys i had sex with.
They both told me that they were completly straight with no thoughts about gay sex at all, and after the traumatic rape they started to have gay sexually desires. One of them was raped in old age, late 20's, and he still bisexual. The other one was raped at the age of 16-17, and now he define himself as totaly gay. All that after a complite staright life including relationships and everything.

Is all that makes any sense?! Does we have more records of similar phenomenon at sceintific psychology literature?
Im very interested by those stories and wanting to hear your toughts.
Thanks

Someoneelse,

I was abuse since I was in Elementary school and high school. I don't engage in sex at all. I prefer have female (I'm a female, and lesbian). I can be friend with men but nothing sexual with them. I've been hurt badly too. If those men prefer being gay that their right. Nothing wrong being gay, lesbian or bisexual. My ex boyfriend was gay and I almost marry him. Thank God I didn't would had been a nasty divorce.

Most evidence suggests that sexual orientation is set pretty early on... trauma in adulthood could open us up to aspects of our orientation that we were not aware of, but orientation itself is probably set in childhood.

But there is more and more evidence that we all lie somewhere on a continuum as far as gender and sexuality is concerned... so it isnt so much of being one thing or the other.

[amandalouise]

there is all kinds of ideas out there of what causes a person to be gblt (gay\bisexxual/lesbian\transgender...) different locations cultures and religions have all have different ideas.

here in my location no rape does not cause a person to become gay, if it did every single person man woman child that undergoes sexual assault would be gblt.

here in my location whether a person is gblt is a matter of who and how they are from birth, just like straight people dont have a choice or dont choose what they are attracted to for sexual preferences...

think of it this way... think of something that is a charactistic of just you... your eyes do you have a choice of what your eye color is, of course not eye color is determined by your genes..

well here in my location a persons sexual preferences is about who and what they are, it isnt a choice. some people are white others are black some are straight some are gblt.

sometimes when someone is raped they have a physical reaction (not a sexual attraction reaction, just the body automatically reacting, kind of like if you have allergies you automatically sneeze) sometimes the body automatically reacts by having an orgasm (which to most people feels good) sometimes when this happens theit turns the person off of what ever caused that reaction to happen and other times it makes them want that reaction even more, the result is some people changes their way of having sex to avoid that reaction they had during the rape, others seek out that reaction during sex, sometimes to the point of re enacting the rape.

it doesnt mean that person is gblt, wanting to be raped again for real, its just how they are handling the situation. Usually what happens here at the crisis center where I work is that later on down the road the person that was raped realizes they really are not gblt from the rape,

either they were born that way and when things settle down emotion wise they can see the clues from their childhood that clearly showed they were gblt or they realize they were not really gblt just choosing to be in order to avoid everything that came with being raped.

I am a lesbian and my parents knew this around the time I was three when I had a crush on a playmate. I was always attracted to women even before i was raped. and being raped did not cause me to become straight.

[retiredlibrarian]

I agree with those who say rape does not cause sexuality. When I was 8 or 9 I had sexual relations with an uncle who was 14 or 15; I have never considered it rape because I thoroughly enjoyed what we did, but some counselors have tried to convince me that at the least I was "molested." Either way, I already knew I was attracted to men several years before the experience with my uncle.