Obsessed with penis size.

Why am I so obsessed with the size of my penis? I've measured it numerous times over the years, and from what I've read online, I'm at the upper end of average (using the bone pressed method) for length and slightly larger than average in girth. I've only been with my wife and I can usually make her orgasm through penetration, and unless something happens between us, which I pray it doesnt, I'm never going to be with anybody else. Still, I'm constantly looking at methods of making it larger. I am even considering buying a good penis pump, if only to make it larger for sex.

Is this some sort of body dismorphic disorder?

Well, do you like feel that it's flawed, or do you just want it bigger? I think most guys want it bigger. I think that there's some kind of pornographic fantasy tied in to all this.

I know some of our guys are okay with it, some trans M-F hate it, some wish it were bigger, and we fems wish that it was gone to begin with- well, we've got one trans F-M that's glad that it's there!

If it's causing you mental concern, maybe you should seek help.

Good luck with that.

I just want it bigger, like probably most guys do. It just seems like it's become an obsession lately.

When did it start becoming an obsession? Did you see or read something that triggered this?

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Do you achieve orgasm on your own? You can give your wife an orgasm. You should be happy and feel confident.

I honestly don't know when it started or if anything in particular triggered it. I've always joked about size, but I'd say just within the past year or so have I really started thinking about it all the time.

I do usually orgasm (99.9% of the time). It does make me feel good that I can make her do it, but then that doubting voice in my head tells me things like "she's just really sensitive and anybody could make her do it". I don't know why I worry about it, but I do.

I know. It is just insecurity. We have the bodies we were given for the most part.
If I have a lover I care for, nothing else matters.

I'd feel very happy that she can orgasm. Though you hopefully will never find out if this is true, but I doubt just anyone could do that for her.

As a woman, to me, getting a good orgasm means that I'm emotionally and physically very satisfied with my partner. I have had minor short relationships where I did not achieve it at all.

Perhaps you've developed a slight insecurity? Not trying to be negative nan, I just know what it's like to hone in on a part of your body and become dissatisfied with it. Like for example, my stomach. I can't seem to lose the baby weight from over 10 years ago and it really drives my insecurity into overdrive.

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Get over your obsession. Seriously. It's not a joke when women say it's what you can do with it and not the size that matters. Size only matters in pornos. If you are satisfied, and your woman is satisfied, then you are doing better then a vast majority of the general population on the planet, so relax, and HAVE FUN!

Really it's not about size as others have stated. If you get bigger, if any of that pump stuff is accurate, what if your partner now says it's too big & can't orgasm!
Most women don't orgasm during vaginal intercourse. Your doing something right so leave it alone. Shift gears & focus on something else maybe

I think a lot of us have a warped perception of what an average penis size is for a few reasons. First is porn, obviously. Just like women's bodies in porn are usually above average, men's bodies are too. I'd wager the only thing the director cares about from the male actors is penis size, how else would Ron Jeremy be one of the most recognizable, ahem, faces in the business.

The other is guys are rarely naked around each other. For my father's generation, the guys would all shower together after gym class but for my generation that just never happened. I think without seeing the average size of regular guys we can't accurately gauge ourselves and end up feeling inadequate if we're not the 9 inch monsters we see in porn.

I used to worry too but that was before I was sexually active, I was worried I'd get laughed at and nervous as all hell on my first sexual encounter (I was only 15 and it was with an older girl), but her reaction was nowhere near disappointment. I had beat myself up and worried about nothing but it was because I had a warped view from porn.

We pay a lot of attention to women's body issues but men have a lot of them too.

By the way men don't "Give" women orgasms, we get them for ourselves.

Not quite sure the point of this post, to make men feel superfluous and inadequate?

Actually, I take this sentiment as taking pressure off of men. Yes, we still need to be sensitive to the needs of the women we are making love with. You can't just jump on top, set a speed record then roll over and go to sleep. But, to me, it certainly alleviates some of the performance anxiety to know that modern women are responsible for their own orgasm. They communicate their needs (more foreplay, what type of foreplay, preference of activity or position, when they might need you or BOB to lend a little "help".

If she's just lying there with her legs open, not talking to you about what she likes and not telling you what is working or isn't working, it's not really your fault that you couldn't "give her" an orgasm.

All well and true but that's not what she said. Her statement basically removed the man from the equation. I think it's okay for a guy to feel good about himself when he's able to make her toes curl, your description makes the guy sound like a glorified sex toy almost, lol.

I can genuinely say that I do need the man in my case. No emotional or physical attraction and it would be impossible for me. If I can orgasm almost every time, it would be positively amazing.

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If she did mean that a man is not necessary, then you're right. She would just be masturbating with a man's penis. BUT, I don't think that's what she's saying.

Bone pressed method? I would offer that it's become a very unhealthy preoccupation if you're not only looking up methods, but finding different ways to measure "accurately" It could easily become something like a dysmorphic disorder if you don't get a handle on it. Probably best to talk to someone like a therapist.