What do i do to get rid off my sexual urges towards men?

Hello, i am 26 years old. I feel lonely. Since my college i used to chat with homosexual people.felt that i am one of them.and i still like them. There is no difference between a straight or gay for me.since then i used to watch gay porns.but i had never experienced the sex with man in real untill i started chating in a popular gay dating site last year. And had sex with few. I cant say that i didnt like the experience but didnt let them go further to anul me or vice versa. I stopped meeting people from dating sites after nov last year.as i thought i have to get a proper job first. Even stopped doing facebook.but i dont know why the attraction to watch gay porn remains same. But i have noticed one think watching gay porn always ends me up musterbrating .after when its done i feel what the hell i did. But this feeling does not stays very long after two or three hours again i feel to have sex with hairy gay men. I searched in internet a lot about my personality issue. But i can not understand how to get rid off this .i want to have a good career but these feelings and frustration are sucking my life out. Currently i dont have any job.dont why i get drawn towards sexual fantasies whenever i feel am depressed.Is this jobless situation the reason that attracts me towards those things? Sometimes i feel there is no hope getting out of this.

When I see where you're from, I can understand why this is distressful to you. I've chatted with several men from that culture and know that homosexuality is greatly frowned upon. Some of the ones I have chatted with have gone ahead and married, just to satisfy the expectations of their family. But I personally do not recommend that; I married so that I could meet the requirements for the religious calling I felt I had, but all the marriage did was produce two very unhappy people for 27 years, at which time my wife left me.

From your post, it isn't clear to me whether you personally feel you're more attracted to men than to women. Either way, my strong personal opinion, from my own experience, is that one doesn't choose to be either homo- or heterosexual. My feeling is that one becomes that way very early in life, if not at birth, so later in life, when one eventually has to choose which he is going to be, he realizes he has always been that way. I realize that not everyone does agree with me, especially certain religious and cultural groups. But that has been my own personal experience.

It's okay to be gay. It's okay to watch and enjoy porn. It's okay to masturbate. As long as you're not letting it get in the way of important daily activities and taking over your life then it's fine, don't feel ashamed of it. I'm not sure about your job situation- are you saying that you can't get a job because you're too focused on sex to even apply for jobs, or do you just feel shame about your attractions?

- are you saying that you can't get a job because you're too focused on sex to even apply for jobs, or do you just feel shame about your attractions?[/QUOTE]
I am losing my focus due to my attraction towards gay porn.even i stopped watching it..but still those urges continuously disrupting my study or even job hunt.when ever i go to visit any company to drop cv i feel if i could meet anybody from that gay dating site but as i am trying to control myself i dont give much care about the feeling. I feel bit ashamed for thinking like a pervert. But hating this feeling didnt stop it.even it comes back and ends up hating myself..sometimes i feel very lonely as i have no one to tell about this.

I personally agree with BlueCrustacean...you need to accept that being gay is normal and okay. I can see that you might be having issues accepting your sexuality. I've gone through and still deal with these same issues. I've known since I was teen that I'm gay, but I'm only truly accepting is openly in my 40's when I'm married to a woman with two kids.

Without attributing any of your issues to being gay, would you have the same difficulties if you were straight and looking for a girl? You see, you have no reason at all to hate yourself, or be ashamed, or think that you are a pervert. Being gay is as natural as any other sexuality...it in NO way makes you a bad person.

I know because I've gone down that path, that you are creating your own doubt loop which is overwhelming you. You need to work towards accepting that the feelings you have are normal and there is no shame in having them. From there, these feelings should stop "Disrupting" your life.

Look up Toby Johnson. I battled my sexuality my whole life you will never win, the only thing is to maybe focus on learning how to live like a monk in terms of chastity. Many become monks because they can't accept their sexual feelings.