[SomethingWitty]

I'm a gay guy and have a somewhat embarrassing fetish: I like fat guys :/ no other way of saying it really! I like a belly on a guy and find guys in the 250-350lb weight range especially attractive. However, superchubs do not do it for me, so there is a limit I guess. There is a feederism aspect to it as well and I have always battled urges to gain myself.

This has caused so much distress that I developed an eating disorder when I was a teenager that almost killed me. Not an overexaggeration, my kidneys were starting to fail. I'm sure there are other factors involved but the shame around this kink and desire to control it definitely contributed. It makes me feel so ashamed that I sometimes don't feel I deserve to live and I just want to hide away from everyone. I understand that it's very unhealthy and the way it is portrayed in the media makes me feel like a freak.

And unfortunately, due to carelessness on my part, my sister found YouTube videos on my iPad of guys...and their bellies. I overheard her talking about it on the phone to her friends saying it was 'weird' and 'disgusting' which was awful, obviously.

Not really sure what to do with this now, this attraction won't go away so I need to come to terms with it somehow! Any advice?

Thanks.

[x_BabyG_x]

Yeah. My advice would be to work on your acceptance of the fact you have a thing for BBM (big beautiful men!), and that it's perfectly normal!

Overhearing your sister saying those things wont help, as you are being judged - however, you are being judged on something that she clearly doesn't understand. In fact, I do feel a major proportion of society remain small minded about the world of fetishes, until they eventually discover the world for themselves of course!

what turns you on, turns you on. Ive just recently come to terms with a strange one of mine too, with a little difficulty. Society is harsh these days, and generally taboo remains taboo as people are afraid to step out of the norm (particularly when it comes to sexual urges - shock! I said it!!)

Work on that acceptance, if you are afraid to be judged, then only open up to the people you trust with your heart or whoever you get involved with relationship wise. You'll get there. Look out for comminities that have the same tastes as you - maybe then you'll actually see how normal it really is.

Enjoy! x

[YMIHere]

Hey,

I'm so sorry you had to go through that with your ignorant, pig-headed sister, but our fried BabyG is right - kink is all over the place. You could do a lot worse lol. I've been on fetish websites and there is PLENTY there that freaks me out and you'd have to know me to know I'm a little difficult to stun.

Big boys = bears right? Nothing to be ashamed of Darlin'. I don't mean to make light of it, BELIEVE ME I DON'T, but there are so many bigger problems you could have especially around these parts. I should remember that myself because I'm sounding like a hypocrite to myself, but embrace it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

I hope you can find peace with yourself over that b/c I know what it's like to hate things about yourself.

[krashmajors]

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being attracted to bigger guys. I'm in the exact same boat but I like BBW (big beautiful women). I'm not ashamed of it. All bodies are beautiful in some way. If you're attracted to a certain type of body, it's completely normal. I'm sorry that you had to deal with the judgment from your sister.

Different strokes for different folks.

Don't be ashamed of what God made you. Go love a big dude. Right now.

First off, I'd be confronting your sister and her big judgemental mouth....biitch that hurts!

Secondly, it's none of anyone's damn business as to what you like and want! Go get you some!

Originally Posted by Lefty the Salesman

Don't be ashamed of what God made you. Go love a big dude. Right now.

Couldn't have said it better

[Secretum]

It's discouraging that being overweight is so stigmatized in our culture, that liking bigger people is considered a fetish. It seems like a preference to me. If you like heavier men, then date a heavier man, and don't let anyone question your love. There is nothing wrong with being overweight, or loving someone who is.

[Mike_J]

Accept who/what you are attracted to, as long as what you are interested is another consenting adult, then who cares what your sister or anyone else thinks.

And try looking at things from the other side, an overweight man who has lived his whole life being judged and looked down on due to his weight, think how wonderful it would be for them to find someone who would love and accept them just how they are. For get your sister and those like her, go out and bring true joy to someone who probably is in desperate need of it.