[clover1011]

Hi, I hope this is the right forum for this, my problem is that I'm 11 years old, and I am 100 percent sure that I am a lesbian. Now I know your probably thinking "your too young get off this site" or, "your a kid you can't possibly know that" well your wrong if you think that, cause I am sure I'm not attracted to guys at all, when my friends say a guy is cute or something like that, I don't know what there talking about! (Please don't be offended if you are a guy I'm not trying to offend any guys.) I'm just not attracted to guys sexually so how would I be able to be in a relationship with someone I'm not in any way sexually or physically attracted to? Again, don't tell me I'm too young cause I know I'm not cause I know these things and I know what I'm talking about, and I am a little more mature and more sexually educated then most 11 year olds. Recently I came out to my mom and told her that I'm not attracted to guys and she is very religious so I was surprised when she said she's okay with it, though I don't know if she took it seriously. She said that I'm young and that I don't need to know, but I know anyways, and after the trouble I went through to tell her, I don't know if she even believes me! And it's not just my mom, I eventually need to come out to my dad, my grandparents, and my friends! Well, all my friends except one. I know my friend Brianna is likely homophobic, I found that out after my friend Jade said something about her cousins girlfriend, and Brianna freaked out cause she thought Jades cousin was a girl. 😦 that led to a fight and it nearly ruined our friendship. I'm so upset now cause I hate fighting with my friends and now I'm worried if I tell my grandparents or my dad the same thing will happen.. what should I do? Should I ever tell them? Please help and don't say I'm too young I just need help cause I don't want everyone to hate me for this 😢

[Skeezyks]

Hello clover1011: You're not too young! But you may want to be a bit cautious about who you come out to. As you learned, as a result of the incident with Brianna, you just never know what a person's reaction is going to be. Just when you think you know someone, suddenly you may realize that you didn't really know them at all. Besides, is it really important that all of your family members & friends know about your sexual orientation?

My personal opinion is that it isn't. My thought would be that it might be best to just not bring it up unless and / or until there is a need to. Over time, those around you will begin to see. And, when you feel there is a real need for one or more of them to be told, you can do so. But, my thought would be that to go out & intentionally come out to all of your family members & friends, just to do it, is probably just asking for trouble, as the saying goes. At least these are my thoughts. Good luck!