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Old Mar 07, 2016, 11:55 PM
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Does it work?

I went on one date with a man. We had sex. I told him we were not compatible.I have blocked him on the dating site. Since then, he has sent me about 15 messages. He knows my phone number.

I have ignored him for 13 or so of those messages. I finally sent him 2 messages telling him I was not interested.

Is it better to continue to ignore him?

What would you do?

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Old Mar 08, 2016, 12:03 AM
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Temporary restraining order. I just heard from a friend that cops give them out here like candy.
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Old Mar 08, 2016, 12:10 AM
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Never reply back.

My former best friend has been harassing me for over a year, calling me and texting me that she misses me.

I thought that would stop her from messaging me if I didn't reply and blocked her on facebook, but she still hasn't after over a year and now I have to change my phone number.
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Old Mar 08, 2016, 12:10 AM
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OMG. I hope it isn't that bad.

I would think he would just get the hint. I told him we are not comparable and we aren't.
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Old Mar 08, 2016, 12:12 AM
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Never reply back.

My former best friend has been harassing me for over a year, calling me and texting me that she misses me.

I thought that would stop her from messaging me if I didn't reply and blocked her on facebook, but she still hasn't after over a year and now I have to change my phone number.
A best friend? That is sad.

I told this man that night it was just sex. That we had nothing in common.
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Old Mar 08, 2016, 12:36 AM
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Have you told him that you're down with the sickness? Recent studies measure the social stigma of bipolar disorder as approximately equivalent to that of the Zika virus. You can tell him you have that, too.
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Old Mar 08, 2016, 02:30 AM
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You are funny.

I don't think I mentioned the bipolar. lol
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Old Mar 08, 2016, 11:27 PM
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Did you make it explicitly clear from the beginning that all you wanted was casual sex with him and that it was your only intention?
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Old Mar 09, 2016, 12:16 AM
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Yes. I told him within the first half an hour that we were ill-suited for dating.

He lied about virtually everything on his dating profile. His age, his weight, his job, his pictures, his prejudice, his political party.
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Old Mar 09, 2016, 12:27 AM
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When I say "from the beginning" I meant, from the moment of initial contact online. Sorry for the confusion.

I can't fathom having sex with someone I don't like, but to each their own I suppose.
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Old Mar 09, 2016, 01:05 AM
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It was a dating site. We exchange a few emails and texts. Then he asked me out and we discussed sex.

I met him, realized I did not want to date him, told him. Then we had sex and I told him again I didn't think we were comparable dating wise.

He has since contacted me 15 times.
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Old Mar 09, 2016, 01:22 AM
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I think; just ignore him at this point (after two firm refusals)
I think explaining further even online will be perceived as encouragement or misperceived as interest. The sex issue really complicates it because he wants sex and is trying to "fix" the situation by re-re-re-asking your further consent to give up some more sex. In the future be more certain he accepts your desire for a one nighter only or pick someone you would like to see again. In both those possible cases, please meet in a public place and be more cautious with whom you share your home address. He may continue to try for awhile but if you are inconsistent he will interpret this as a go signal for "more asking/insisting/demanding". No means no and yes means yes so please decide and stay decided. I wobble with indecision myself... especially about "dating and sex" or "dating vs sex" (maybe) I think I mean both of them.

In conclusion: Be safe.
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Old Mar 09, 2016, 01:29 AM
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I think; just ignore him at this point (after two firm refusals)
I think explaining further even online will be perceived as encouragement or misperceived as interest. The sex issue really complicates it because he wants sex and is trying to "fix" the situation by re-re-re-asking your further consent to give up some more sex. In the future be more certain he accepts your desire for a one nighter only or pick someone you would like to see again. In both those possible cases, please meet in a public place and be more cautious with whom you share your home address. He may continue to try for awhile but if you are inconsistent he will interpret this as a go signal for "more asking/insisting/demanding". No means no and yes means yes so please decide and stay decided. I wobble with indecision myself... especially about "dating and sex" or "dating vs sex" (maybe) I think I mean both of them.

In conclusion: Be safe.
I did all the things you are supposed to do to have a safe date. I even talked to my p-doc about it. lol

I talked to him online for a week. I DID NOT give him my address. I got his phone number and left it at home with my 19yr old son. I met him in public. We discussed condoms and what sexual acts would take place. And I told him I did not want to repeat the meeting.

I ignored him for 13 texts, blocked him and then told him twice. He told me he will leave me alone.

No means no even if you have had sex once. This wouldn't even be a conversation if I were a man and the rolls are reversed.

I clearly told him it was a one night stand.
So thanks everyone for the advice. This is pissing me off.
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Old Mar 09, 2016, 03:28 AM
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