sexual fantasy

I have a sexual fantasy of exposing my wife nude to strangers, although I have been married for 10 years living happy sexual life with my wife.
I dont know what to do with this thoughts , i feel highly excited from thinking of this issue

Ask your wife what she thinks. who knows?

I'm not sure why your sexual fantasy was moved to sexual "addictions" but maybe it doesn't matter. If I dreamt of killing my father, some people would think that I had committed patricide, I suppose.

I've had friends who have had the same or similar fantasies since college (when it was girlfriends, not wives, who were the objects of the fantasy). I've never had the fantasy but it's so very, very common that, were I you, I wouldn't worry about the fantasy, only where you want to take the fantasy. Having this fantasy isn't any kind of sexual addiction, it's not sick, it's probably one of, if not the most common male fantasies. There' really no point in attempting to analyse why you have this particular fantasy, but (as with any sexual fantasy) you should think of the consequences before you proceed.

Just to make sure that I'm close to the reason, though, I think that most men think that their girlfriends/wives are sexually attractive and they want a chance for other guys to validate what they know to be true. Some men, with far different fantasies, go so far as to want to see their wives humiliated in some sort of gangbang. You're not seeking humiliation.

There are a lot of different theories concerning acting out fantasies when in a long term relationship. There are a lot of degrees of fantasies, too. Fantasies involving others, naturally, imply consent. Consensual fantasies, acted upon, in long-term relationships can be great and can serve to enhance a couple's sex life for decades or they can go horribly awry and end a relationship. Until I married, I dated girls in which we were mutually committed to fulfilling one another's fantasies within the limits of what we felt for each other. My future wife was aware of my feelings on the subject and let me know that there would be no discussion of sexual fantasies should we continue to date. That should have been another big red flag for me (no discussion?).

So the first thing to do, after deciding just how you think that your fantasy would logistically play out (I wouldn't recommend renting the local Elk's Lodge as a venue nor the Elks as an audience; the KofC would be much more open – we're just like that) is to talk to your wife. She may have a streak of exhibitionism a mile wide and jump at the chance. She might think you sick and invite you to sleep on the sofa. If you've discussed sexual fantasies previously, then you'll know when and how to begin. If you've not... hmm, that would be kind of strange, but if you haven't now's the time to start.

You don't want your marriage to hinge on her decision, naturally. I don't know a thing about your sex life but this isn't, you know, an exclusively male fantasy. And there's no truth (based upon my experience) to the rumour that women don't have sexual fantasies. Or don't like sex. Just tell her what you've written here - that you have this particular sexual fantasy.

BUT...

Before you get to the admission state, be clear about whether you or not this is a fantasy that you wish to have fulfilled or whether it's best left as a fantasy (possibly with some role-playing). I've seen marriages destroyed because one or the other partners seemed to be enjoying a fantasy more than was expected. Or where one of the partners breaks down into tears because they feel abused by the fantasising partner. Even instances where the fantasy goes beyond the fantasising partner's fantasy, or doesn't meet his or her expectations.

You have to consider not just your partner's feelings (although those feelings should be the first that you consider, not your own!) but the possible consequences of going beyond the fantasy state. Can you and your wife survive the consequences? That should be part of speaking about your fantasy.

I feel fortunate in having had, until I married, partners that were open about their fantasies and thus allowed me to open about mine. In cases where one or both of us felt that going from fantasy to reality might damage our relationship, we would generally relegate those to role-playing. In some cases, it just took a nod or two across the room to agree to bringing a previously discussed fantasy to life. The majority of our fantasies never made it even to the role-playing state, though. Two women that I loved both knew, for example, that our mutual fantasies about a dozen guy ‘gang-bang’ would have damaged, or even ended, our relationship in one way or another.

I would just advise using caution. Not about sharing your fantasy with your wife – I strongly believe that sex should be discussed as well as practiced! – but about going through with it should she agree. What would you think if she immediately agreed and had the car started before you could get your trousers on?

My advice on “what to do with these thoughts” is to discuss them with your wife. Maybe they could lead to some wonderful role-playing. I would let her know how exciting the fantasy is to you, but don’t make it a do-or-die deal!

I’m still a bit unnerved to see “sexual fantasy” tagged as “sexual addiction!” But don’t think for a minute that a sexual fantasy has anything to do with a sexual addiction.

Although we use some role play in the bedroom, my partner enjoys telling about his sexual fantasy during sex. We could be physically engaging with each other as he tells me what he'd like to watch another man or woman do to me and I will ask him what ' they ' are going to do next with me. His fantasy maybe to see me with someone else but it is strictly a fantasy, but the discussion/exploration of it during sex is in itself enough to satisfy.

Just be honest but respectful of your wife when you approach such a conversation and you may be pleasantly surprised by her response, good luck ��

Wonderful! Yeah, that's an excellent way to share fantasies and you're absolutely correct (as I hope that the OP will see) that "the discussion/exploration of it during sex is in itself enough to satisfy."

I think that I may have mentioned the "gang bang" fantasy that I shared with one of my long-term loves? We made it "come true" from time to time with a simple silk blindfold and a couple of change-ups. Didn't have to worry about condoms, etc. It's just been so long for me that I've forgotten those simple solutions!