[88Butterfly88]

I'm just so horny. I do think this is more medical than psychological so I hope it's okay to post. I am a woman but due to a medical condition have high testosterone levels. As a sexual assault survivor, I don't really enjoy masturbation and honestly feel sex is dirty. How do I get rid of these damn urges?

[Skeezyks]

Hello 88Butterfly88: The Skeezyks doesn't really have an answer for you. But I saw that no one had replied to your post, so I thought I would. I'm male & an older person now. Fortunately, my sex drive has pretty-much disappeared at this point. But when I was younger it was a driving factor in my life... & not in a good way.

I don't know how one gets rid of it. Honestly I don't think there is a way. Of course, some antidepressants reduce people's sex drives. I've also wondered if I had been more physically active, more athletic, if that would have helped. I've always lived with high levels of stress & anxiety. And it may be that my intense sex drive was somehow connected to all of the anxiety I lived with. I don't really know. Anyway, for what they're worth, those are my thoughts with regard to your post.

[TishaBuv]

It's a shame that the rape caused you to deprive yourself of the pleasure of sex from now on. I suggest counseling about this.

[Lost_in_the_woods]

I hate when my mind and brain are at odds with each other. It is the worst. Its like being stuck at the dinnertable while your parents arguing. No one is giving an inch and you just sit there silently playing food, wishing you could either yell at them to stop or get up and leave, helpless to do anything without fear of punishment. Yet, you are being punished eother way....but, being that this is your mind , brain, and body...you actually are in charge, but you still meed to find the courage to speak up and break the cycle. Its mot your fault, you did nothing wrong. Someone else inflicted this on you. They hurt you and now you are being repeatedly punished for this scumbag's crime. It not fair. You cant change what happened unfortunately.., but you can decide that you have suffered long enough and that it is time to stop allowing your abuser to continuously control your life. It is not an short easy road to healing....but, just like any journey, you will never get anywhere until you decide its time to get up and start putting on foot in front of the other. Sexual urges are not something you can just get rid of. It is a basic human need just like food water and air, the inly way to stop a rumbling starving stomach is to feed it. Yoi were naturally born with a lrg appetite, you may never get back your full ability to enjoy, so the best you can do for your self right now is take whatever small baby steps you can tolerate to at least throw your body a morsel or two whenever you are able which over time can rewire the brain to need less to be satisfied. It is your mind that is the hardest to heal and only hard work and time will do that. Hope that is helpful. I dont have the,answers all either...ive spent my life trying to fight trauma, it gets better for a while then sometimes are worse again..but just keep fighting cuz its your life and you deserve to be free to enjoy it.

[88Butterfly88]

Thank you everyone! And sorry for my late reply. I am in counseling but it's not working as well as I would like.