Before I Wake

Hello all.

Unfortunately this is not a post regarding movie with Kate Bosworth, it is regarding what happens while im asleep.

Little pre-story: Ive been with my BF for almost 3 yrs now, and he was always more than great and loving. Perfect mach id say. We started living together about a year ago, as it seemed like a good move and also he got a job where he has to travel a lot and this way we get to be closer when he is off the trip. Long story short - i had a condition, and got stuck with medicines that make me sleep a lot, and very hard, every night and sometimes i have to even lay down during the day. He was more then helpful and full of understanding whole time, and i dont know what would i do without him at those moments.

Few weeks ago, i noticed i had semen between my legs when i woke up. I thought it was me, but after it happened a few more times and as the last time my vagina was a bit sore, i couldnt help but thinking.. he is easing himself while im asleep. Asleep almost like unconscious.

Does anyone have any advice or similar situation? Im not sure how i feel about the matter or him.

Sorry for my english, it is not my native language.

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Thank you Skeezyks! I hope i will get some advice and maybe give some where I can.. Thank you for this warm welcome!

Have you spoken to him about this????

This does not sound good to me at all, I would definitely talk to him about it ASAP.

Nope, I didnt yet... I tried to put a joke on it, but he didnt catch.. I am not sure how to react and how to feel about it.. Because its like there is another guy in him

Update- It happened again, last night. I m really not sure how to act around the house.

Hey @SleepyNookSit,

I really think you should sit down both and have a talk.

Question- If he says "yes" what is your reaction?

It could be his fetish or it could be like being molested.

"Why" would be my obvious question. Why is it happening?
Could you, @SleepyNook, have some kind of somnambulistic behavior that gives him wrong signals?

Or is He enjoying id deliberately?

In your position I would want to know exactly what is happening and understand how I feel about it.

The WRONG signals? She was asleep.

Well, i do get arroused in my dreams, i guess thats normal.. and i dunno what im doin while asleep..

I believe he does, coz it hapen a dozen times already.. as far as i know.

Im still not sure how I feel.. and im not sure how do u confront someone with smthng like this?..

We're not mechanically "Powered Off" when we sleep.

It might depend on your medication.

I take Ambien for sleep. It has something of an amnesiac effect.

Could it be that your meds are doing the same thing?

I would suggest a blunt talk. Tell him what you have found and that you are uncomfortable. Whether you are reacting to him in sleep or not there needs to be a boundary made.

Perhaps you both can come up with a code word or a safe word. That way he knows when you are awake and willing and or asleep and reacting (if that is the case)