[YOLO Lady]

First I apologize if this is not in the correct forum.

I need to tell my T how horny and lonely I've been and how I'm fighting the urge to call my old Boyfriend or go on a casual sexual encounter spree. Just wondering if using the word, "Horny" is offensive or rude in any way? Should I try to find a different word or term? What do you suggest instead?

My T is pretty cool in that we can talk about sex without it being a big deal. She also once said, "pissed off!" rather than saying "angry" or "mad." I also once said "F***ing" and she made sure that she said it again 3x so that I'd know that it was ok to swear in session.

Just trying to give you an idea of what she is like...

Thanks!

I cuss like a sailor in therapy. I asked if she minded once. She said "no".

Originally Posted by YOLO Lady

Just wondering if using the word, "Horny" is offensive or rude in any way? Should I try to find a different word or term? What do you suggest instead?

If 'horny' feels a little coarse, would you prefer 'randy'?

If your therapist echoed your F-word three times in the same session, you probably need not hesitate to use indelicate language, unless it makes you uncomfortable.

How's 'underbanged'?

'Bone-motivated'?

[hermitix]

Aroused maybe?

[SoConfused623]

sexually frustrated?

[Cleo6]

When I was talking ages ago about my ex and I said he did some weird stuff she asked me if it was kinky weird. She's also brought up sex before just as easy as if she was saying what she had for breakfast whilst I'm sitting there getting into a panic. I think saying horny is fine if you are happy to. I've got to talk about sex at some point and I'm dreading it

[YOLO Lady]

Thanks for the suggestions on other words/terms to use. "Horny" is the word that I want to use and am most comfortable with. Could people tell me if they think that saying, "Horny" is rude or not? I don't want to be offensive to my T, and "horny" is such a typical YOLO Lady word to use.

[Cleo6]

I don't think it's rude and i know quite a few who use that word

[PerryJeffJoeJimBob]

If took me nearly two years to bring up sexual issues in therapy. Mostly because I felt uncomfortable using sex based language in mixed company (my T is female). When I finally started revealing sex based concerns and graphic language my therapist said she had been expecting something all along, and had tried to get me to open up. She had no qualms about any words I used. She said she had heard everything in her practice. I had been the one with the hangup. I now readily discuss items I had previously ignored, and my intimacy problems have improved dramatically.

[YOLO Lady]

I ended up saying that I was really lonely and horny and she didn't bat an eye. I didn't apologize for it and just kept going. I think that it was fine! Funny though that she didn't echo it back to me a couple of times how she usually does when I use slang!

[Big Mama]

good, I am glad you have an understanding T and yu were able to use words you are comfortable with. I am sure you T has heard far greater terms in her lifetime.

[Sad Mermaid]

I think that "horny" is a funny word - it is not rude. I think you also have received great suggestions - sexually frustrated, underbanged, etc. - and if you use them to alternate with "horny", you would expand your verbal repertoire, which would lead to greater ease talking about this subject.