[LifeInProgress]

Wondering how other people cope with these coming together in bed?

I have noticed that my sexual performance has changed. Sometimes it is harder for me to get and sustain an erection, orgasm is very difficult to reach. I still enjoy sex and my partner and I are able to talk about it, but it still leaves me worried that I am not living up to expectations, all evidence to the contrary not withstanding.

I am definitely not twenty anymore. Thankfully intimacy not orgasm has become the goal.

[Skeezyks]

Hello LifeInProgress: I don't know as there is really much I can offer with regard to this. But I noticed no one had replied to your post. So I thought I would.

I'm an older person. And I lost my sexual ability many years ago to a combination of surgery, depression, anxiety, & antidepressants along with some other stuff. (And, truth be told, I was not sad to see it go.) Since then I've become pretty-much entirely non-intimate, non-sexual. I just prefer to be left alone.

Things do change as one ages. On the other hand, they don't change for most people as much as they have for me. I do think it is a most positive sign that you have been able to re-orient your goal toward intimacy. I have the feeling that could be a major hurdle for many men.

Originally Posted by LifeInProgress

Wondering how other people cope with these coming together in bed?

I have noticed that my sexual performance has changed. Sometimes it is harder for me to get and sustain an erection, orgasm is very difficult to reach. I still enjoy sex and my partner and I are able to talk about it, but it still leaves me worried that I am not living up to expectations, all evidence to the contrary not withstanding.

I am definitely not twenty anymore. Thankfully intimacy not orgasm has become the goal.

What meds are you taking hon?

Ssri's can take away your drive. Celexa citalopram froze me while Prozac and welbutrin has no effect.

Consult your doctor.

[LifeInProgress]

Welbutrin, geodon, depakote, zoloft, prazozin, also metformin, insulin, and gemfibrizol.

My partner and I are enjoying our sex life very much, it's just different than it used to be for me.

I have talked with pdoc about it before, and he thinks a lot of it may be due to zoloft.