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Jan 16, 2017, 12:25 AM
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My new partner has ADHD and I think its effecting his ability to enjoy sex. He often gets distracted and though we've tried three times I haven't been able to get him to cum. It may also have to do with how comfortable he is with his body but idk. Does anybody have advice for what I can do here? Its really frustrating for me to feel insufficient in this area because I pride myself on being pretty good in bed lol.
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Jan 17, 2017, 06:54 AM
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I wouldn't judge the quality by orgasms. How did you enjoy it ?
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Jan 17, 2017, 02:56 PM
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Its not whether I enjoy it or not, I worry about how he feels. And he was very frustrated by his inability to orgasm.
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Jan 17, 2017, 03:58 PM
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Can he achieve orgasm otherwise?
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#5
Jan 18, 2017, 06:58 PM
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Yes, he can otherwise. I don't know if it has to do with me or having to use a condom or something else.
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#6
Jan 18, 2017, 09:58 PM
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Maybe he is just nervous because the relationship is new.
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#7
Jan 19, 2017, 02:33 AM
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I didn't dare to ask, but as a man I can confirm that a condom can has a very negative impact on that one, particularly if you haven't used one for a while. And if doesn't fit properly. That in combination with a new relationship where you are eager to impress, or maybe rather being scared of *not* impressing - I can see that happening.
So, before you start looking for other reasons, just give it some time. Try different condoms, it's not so much the width or length, but rather the cut that can make a big difference. Lubricant helps a lot (both outside and inside of the condom), different positions and certain techniques you can do to help him, anything to relax before you start, lots of things to try and I'm sure you will get by. |
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Jan 19, 2017, 11:22 AM
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I'm in no way unexperienced, I already ruled out the basics. We've tried different types of condoms, and while they obviously have a negative impact we still need to use them.
I believe it has to do with the ADHD or at least that combined with nervousness, because he does get very distracted. I only get to see him intimately on rare occasions, like every other month or so. I'd really like some more tailored advice if possible. I do believe it has a lot to do with focus. |
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