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Jan 10, 2017, 02:31 PM
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Hey everyone, so I don't know how well known autoandrophilia is, so I'll explain it. I'm not exactly transgender. I don't want to be a man. I don't EXACTLY feel like a man in a woman's body. But I don't want my genitalia. If I could just get that part of my body switched, I would be happy.
(If this topic isn't allowed, then my apologies). Whenever I think about sex, I can only picture it with me having a penis (also, I'm a lesbian). I'm still a virgin, so unfortunately I don't have any sexual experiences, but I know what I want. I'm just afraid of getting another girlfriend and not being able to tell her why I can't have sex in the way that she would think we would. I'm afraid she would make a move and I'd have to completely shut her down to have an extremely scary talk about how I kind of want a penis and that we can't just have sex like a normal couple. Like I said before, I wouldn't consider myself transgender, but I do feel more masculine when it comes to relationships. It sucks because my build is very petite (4' 11", about 110 lbs) so physically I could never fill the role of a man. It took me a long time to tell my friends (and even long for me to tell my then-girlfriend) about my AAP after I learned about what it was. I don't really remember how I learned, I somehow stumbled across a website where a woman was talking about the same type of feelings that I have. I don't know if it's physically possible to just a genitalia change while keeping the rest of your body the same? Does anyone else here have any similar feelings? |
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Jan 10, 2017, 04:07 PM
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I've had some of the feelings you've talked about in your post. I didn't know there was a name for it. But yes , in the past I have thought about having sex with a woman and I have a penis. I haven't felt like that in while because now I think I'm more of a lesbian then anything.
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Jan 18, 2017, 03:58 AM
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I am not familiar with this so I'm sorry if this sounds lame or is unhelpful.
First if you haven't had sex how do you know your preferences? I know you might say it's something you're comfortable with maybe when you think about it. Have you thought about using a strap on with a potential partner. Would this satisfy your feeling? I'm not sure but just something I was thinking. Good luck!
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Feb 14, 2017, 06:43 PM
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Feb 14, 2017, 07:54 PM
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Again.....don't know these things unless you try...
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Feb 14, 2017, 08:20 PM
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Feb 15, 2017, 08:25 AM
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That's great, but what I'm saying is we all have preconceived ideas in our head & sometimes we have to let them go just to try something. Then make a decision. So give yourself some room to try different things....then decide.
It's like shopping for clothes. They always look different off the hanger so you have to try them on & you might be surprised how different they look. Wish you the best!
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Feb 15, 2017, 08:31 AM
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Feb 15, 2017, 08:47 AM
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Then stick with what you want & what you don't want & be upfront about it. I'm not saying advertise what you're looking for, but be open enough to share this info early with next partner so you don't get hurt or embarrassed by it. You deserve to be accepted for who you are & that you'll find the right person.
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Feb 15, 2017, 09:22 AM
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Feb 15, 2017, 09:39 AM
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The idea of speaking openly about sex can cause great anxiety in any person bec it's a private subject filled with stereotypes, labels & preconceived ideas based on our own morals, values, religions & culture.
Talking about sex can be torture! Some view it as...well if you can openly speak so freely about it obviously you're promiscuous! See? Another label. Lol Please remember if you look back briefly in our history that the sex conversation has only been around for a short while really. It hasn't fully evolved so you're not the only one with anxiety. Believe me. Now you're also mixing into the conversation something you're not comfortable with & embarrassed about so that adds to the stress too. Give yourself a break! This is all new & you need to give yourself a chance to adjust & accept yourself...every part of it. Even the parts that people judge. That's hard! But like you said "it was the most anxiety ridden 2 min of my life." Key here is....2min. And you lived thru it & could breathe afterwards. You did it!!!! So take baby steps. Look at the bigger picture & tell yourself you're pretty dam unique which is what makes you so special!
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#12
Feb 23, 2017, 08:18 PM
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I'll be completely honest here I actually thought autoanddrophilia
was someone who has sex with automobiles. I learn something new. |
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