Am I a bad person?

You are in no way bad or gross nor should you feel any shame or guilt for just being who you are. There is absolutely nothing wrong with your desires as long they do not hurt anyone else in the process and as long as whatever you participate in is totally consensual. I am a submissive and a masochist. My boyfriend is my dominant and he is a sadist. Everything we do is completely consensual, negotiated as equals ahead of time and limits are respected with safety precautions put in place. I live the BDSM lifestyle as a choice in order to be true to who and what I am. I am very active within my local BDSM community, volunteer as a dungeon monitor at my local club and teach a submissive 101 class. I am also a perfectly "normal" person with a "normal" life, lol...single Mom, respected career, etc. There are so many people like you and me and a whole supportive community out there in regards to kinky lifestyles. There is nothing wrong with us. Please feel free to message me if you have questions or want support. No one should ever feel ashamed or be judged because of their wants, needs and/or desires as long as they are sought and fulfilled responsibly.