Bi or lesbian women who come onto me?

Hello,

I'm having a problem in Japan where lesbian or bi women come onto me. Really!! I am single and straight but am tolerant. My previous boss was a closet lesbian but she kept asking me to go to the hot springs with her or go on overnight trips with her. I refused one reason or the other. Also, at one bar, a woman told me that other women were interested in her and said because she has big tits and ***. I was like- really? But, did not touch her as she touched herself trying to show me her tits and ***. I never went back to that bar. Then, one of my students who is married kept complimenting my figure while I was wearing a mini-skirt and tight shirt. She was with her husband and I was thinking- hmmm, this is getting strange. She had invited me for a meal with her husband but looking back, I think she invited me for something more. So, I am trying to stop wearing mini-skirts and tight shirts for now. I don't like it when I have women come onto me when I least expect it. I was wondering if any other women have similar problems when they wear seductive clothes? I am tolerant but truthfully not really interested in being with women because it is just sex and nothing else to it. I am curious if this is a Japanese thing or is it world wide. So, my act as a dumb person helps here too but I realize I'm asking for trouble when I dress too seductively. Anybody with any other stories?

I am bisexual. Getting hit on by men or women is totally flattering for me. You say you aren't interested in being with women because it's just sex. Do you mean it would be just sex for you? Because many lesbian couples have normal relationships, kids, etc.

Does it bother you when men hit on you? Because you keep saying you are tolerant and yet you are only mentioning women hitting on you.

I would say a simple "thank you, but I'm not interested" would suffice with both sexes. Beyond that its harassment. Also not every compliment is a come on so I might gently suggest you read too much into it at times.

I'm sure homosexual people get hit on by straight people all the time. It happens.