[blah__x]

as some of you may know, im a little confused about all things sex.. last time i concluded that i was asexual. here is my latest dilemma...in a way sex still irritates me, yet it doesnt totally disgust me like it used to.

confused yet? i am. i dont know how i can "like" sex, and completely utterly hate it at the same time.

am i still technically asexual?

anyone relate?

[SweetCrusader]

i'm a virgin, but i can relate to the confusion for sure

[Rhapsody]

I personally feel that LoVe & Hate can play into all areas of our lives......... Even that of SEX.

[blah__x]

thanks. at least i know im not the only confused being.

[youOme]

Sexuality is confusing....always.

[Peacemaker]

Hi Gabriel,

I feel for you because I am in a similar situation. The difference with me is that I have absolutely no interest in sex. I never daydream about it, think about it, or have it. I am a happily married woman with a terrific husband who has to be the most patient man in the world. It has been at least a year since I have had sex. I no longer find it to be enjoyable nor the least bit entertaining.

I don't hate sex; I just don't have any feelings for it anymore. I really miss this part of my life and the intimacy with my husband. I used to enjoy a very healthy and a quite enjoyable sex life. Now all is gone.

I am confused, irritated, and have no idea how to "fix" myself. I can admit that I ruminate about my confusion daily and am not sure that I am asexual or am just forced into celibacy due to lack of interest. UGH

Yes, I can relate in my own way. The difference is that you can say that you hate it. I can't say that I have any feelings for it at all.

Maybe both of us will find an answer where we will have less confusion.

Take Care,
Peacemaker

[blah__x]

hmmmm...... youre not on medication are you? i think that can have an affect on sex drive.. but otherwise yeah ive no idea why that happened..


hmmmmmmm CONFUSION ALL ROUND!!

[Peacemaker]

Gabriel,

Nope... we have ruled out medication as my issue, unfortunately. UGH

Thanks for your advice though.

Yep, just more confusion.

Be Blessed,
Peacenker (Sherri)

[_Hope_]

i am not sure if this applies , but I am willing to throw my 2cents in. The nmore often I have sex, the more I want it , the less often I have sex the less I want it, I gues for me it is like a momentum kind of thing.

Linda

[blah__x]

nice point bpd....could be..

otherwise you just learn to live without it or something?

hmmmmmmmm

[dragonphoto]

Hey Gabriel,

I can honestly say that for a long part of my teenage years the thought of sex made me sick to my stomach. I think the reason why is because I only heard bad things about what could happen. It was not until a few years later that I started to feel more comfortable. I have only had three partners and each one of them was close to me no one night stands for me. I feel that in order to have sex with someone and feel comfortable about it you have to really have a connection with that person.