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So it's valentines day and we have always had an open marriage. not that we take advantage of it very often but today we just started a little flirty text between ourselves, well after not having sex for a year due to my medical condition we decided to open ourselves up again but after spending the morning getting ourselves going we find we don't know what to do or where to get release.
Or who to ask to join us.
Be it real or imaginary it is a real problem

What about finding a way to enjoy what is possible?

I've struggled with ED for much of my adult life. Yes, there came a time when I became so dysfunctional that I was grieving it as a major loss. Not so much losing something that I had in the past, but losing the potential to one day experience what I never had. I'm still grieving it to be honest, but I'm trying to enjoy what is still possible, which requires acceptance and letting go of what is no longer possible. Not an easy thing for me, but it is either that or completely detaching from a part of myself that still exists with its needs and desires. I don't want to detach from that.

It is so hard when after years of being able to do then have it turned off .i miss what we had. now trying to fight back if it's possible. A long journey ahead

I know it is difficult. Getting older is such a bad deal. Our hopes, needs, and desires stay the same, but our bodies, and even parts of our minds become less cooperative.

I wish that I had some good advice for you.

You mentioned having an open marriage. Is there any way that this could help the situation - real or imaginary as you suggested?

I have come to terms with my broken body moving through the stages of life. Its only when you actually get to a certain number you think is the far future and when it catches up you thought it would be different.
Like being in an open relationship it might be there to use but whether you do or not is up to me. Real or imaginary. It takes the stress off

After finding the right friends to help(its much easier after you have physically met) that understand and can tell the difference between real and imaginary i dont feel like an outcast but part of something.
With mutual respect things work

What a load.
The only thing that gets easier when you put your trust in others is that it's easier for your heat to be broken.