[jattitude74]

Hi I don't normally post here, normally in bipolar, BUT, I was just in my sons room tucking him into bed( he is 7) and found some of mine and my daughters bras and underware under his bed. I asked him why they were there and what he was doing with them, he clammed up and wouldn't say anything, he was embarrased admitted wearing them but why i have no clue is this considered normal behavior for a 7 year old or is there something deeper? Any input would be good?

[salukigirl]

kids are naturally curious. i dont think its abnormal at all. same thing as a young boy playing with a doll. I think the best thing would be to let him explore, just my opinion. i think more harm comes from forcing a boy to be a typical boy than just letting him explore. Would it bother you if it was something deeper? personally, i think much more comes out of holding back urges than just exploring them. then again i have been called a "damn dirty hippie" lol.

[jattitude74]

Ok, you made me feel a little better, we have been going through a lot of stuff with my daughter lately...possble dx of bipolar, same as me, and I just found my underware under my sons bed,,, too much going on I guess,, I was hpoing that I haven't completely screwed up my kids, they are my life and I accept them for who they are but on the same had ,,what the heck?? It, was kind of funny although he was totally embarassed just unexpected I guess.lol Thanks ---Jen

[Rhapsody]

As a mother of two boys (Men Now) - I would have to say that most of this seems to be normal curiosity of the opposite sex for his age....... as long as there has not been any inappropriate sexual exposure to people, adult magazines or adult movies.

........................ So Breathe.

I agree with the rest. It sounds like he may have just been curious about what the heck the bras were for, and wondering about the differences with the panties.

Probably just learning to recognize and is exploring the differences between boys and girls, and at that age, most likely nothing strange about it.

[jattitude74]

Thanks everyone for your posts, they were helpful. Jen

[Perna]

If you are spending more time with your daughter and working on the bipolar similarities, etc. and he knows a bit about that he may be wishing he were included? At that age he might think being "like" you and your daughter by wearing the same clothes would be enough to include him. I would see if he's feeling left out or lonely in some way? Does his dad do fun "man" stuff with him, just the guys, etc.?

[AAAAA]

jattitude74,

One of my sons went through that stage when he was young, were the underwear the silky polyester kind? Now he has silky boxers

[lorisinto]

Ha! I enjoy those silky kinds myself. I had a brother growing up who did the same thing, it was as everyone says a natural curiosity. We laugh about it now whenever we get together.

[Perna]

My girlfriend's son (now a daddy himself) was into women's hosiery and would grab hold of a waitress, or stranger's legs and rub his hands up and down and "coo" in bliss until he was almost school age! :-)

[jattitude74]

Thank you everyone, we have actually been laughing about it the last few days,just not infront of him. I guess that all I can/should do, just let it go.Thanks, Jen

[selfy]

hey my bro used to wear my dresses when he was little. it was hilarious. not in private either, he used to go into my cuboard and put em on in front of me.
oh, and he has been thru innumerate amounts of my bras. just curosity. altho i think he was trying to learn how to UNDO the bras.... cheeky bugger, he was only 10 at the time...
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[youOme]

he was probably using them as a sling shot....just curiousness...I wouldn't be concerned.

[Gracey]

ROFL - slingshot. I love it.

My little brother was raiding my top drawer regularly for about a year. My mom FREAKED out the day she walked in and caught him with a bra on and socks in the cups.

Today. . .he's so normal it scares me. Six figure income, wife, two children.

I'm pretty sure wearing a bra when he was 9 didn't screw him too badly.

[jattitude74]

he he he slingshot lol, thats a good one. I am glad I can have a sense of humor about it now, I was just a little alarmed at first. My daughter had received two new bras for christmas from her grammy and she opened them and looked at her brother and said THESE ARE MINE LEAVE THEM ALONE!! We all chuckeled after my son went in the other room and left it at that, I keep checking his hiding spot and don't find anything. So he either gave up or found a new spot!! lol- Jen