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#1
Jan 17, 2008, 12:17 AM
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I feel like sometimes I have an aversion to sex, my partner has noticed it also. She was wondering if I had ever been abused sexually. Knowing the people who were around me I wouldn't put it past them, however, I have no recollection of anything like that.....and really, I have no recollection of much of anything when I was younger. I was verbally abused, some physical....could it be that I just dont remember?
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Jan 17, 2008, 01:24 AM
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</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
champion said: ....could it be that I just dont remember? </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Yes, it is very possible that you do not remember as this happens to a lot of sexually abused people - its call repressed memories. I personally was sexually abused for a period of ten years and while I do remember a lot sadly - there is some a lot more that my mind has chosen to forget as to allow me to survive. |
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Jan 17, 2008, 05:14 AM
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YES!!!!!!
It is very possible, this is the very thing I have been working with my therapist on for a year now. I still don't know either way for sure, but given the flashbacks I do have of the day/morning/ hour in question it is highly likely. This has only been questioned in the past year or 2; before that 1 psych nurse said that I displyed 'classic abuse victim behaviours' but I believed then 100% that nothing like that had ever happened to me......
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Jan 17, 2008, 06:03 AM
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I was abused from the age of 6 untill the age of 12 when for some reason my abuser (brother in law) just stopped, I forgot all about it and actualy became friends with him untill I was 18 when I saw him playing with my neice and younger sister in a way that was not 'right' and had so many memories fill my head I could not believe I had forgotten them ! Of course I spoke up and he was arrested which is another story, but yes you can forget your abuse.
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#5
Jan 17, 2008, 10:11 AM
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Absolutely being sexually abused can be repressed for years! I repressed it for years until i finally broke down at age 45....there after i was hospitalized!
My abusers were relatives (uncles, and a cousin) it happened at age 7 and 8. I remember more and more each day thas why it makes it so hard for me to cope...But if you think u were or it possibly happened, speak with a professional. zig
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Jan 17, 2008, 02:10 PM
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I was abused from the age of 8-15 by a pdoc/hypnotist who was my mothers lover......he messed with my mind so much....I dread therapy because I can only tell her what I remember....it's called dissossiative amnesia...the brain fragments and goes into a sort of hibernation if a child suffers severe trauma, my memories come back through ptsd ie dreams, flashbacks.....sometimes I just remember something out of nowhere......
My T says it will all come back eventually so I can put it to rest...... good luck and take care.....Jinnyann xx 
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Jan 17, 2008, 10:37 PM
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absolutely , I was raped and surpressed the memory for 5 years then a surgery causing physical pain and brought back flashbacks and PTSD
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Jan 18, 2008, 03:15 AM
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It's called repressed memories. You mind naturally blocks out the most horrible events from earlier life. It's a natural suppression, subconsciously. I know there has been events in my life that have left clues in my behavior and why I do it but I cannot recall them at all. I believe my mind is protecting me in a way.
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#9
Jan 18, 2008, 03:20 PM
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Interesting. If something like that had happend to a male from say....his father, what might some of the symptoms be especially as is concerned with intimacy in relationships....fears....interaction with other men?
Also, I have read of psychologists/hypnotists helping patients recount some incidents which ended up never happening. How could one avoid this? |
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Jan 18, 2008, 08:50 PM
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</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
champion said: If something like that had happend to a male from say....his father, what might some of the symptoms be especially as is concerned with intimacy in relationships....fears....interaction with other men? </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Here are a few symptoms I would think someone might have to deal with after going thru incest - as I did. * * * * * * * * * * * Fear of the abuser / men Lack of trust in the abuser / men Anger at the abuser / and the adults that did not protect you Sadness of being betrayed by someone you trusted Confusion - for you still love the abuser (your dad) Poor relationships with other men or a lack of self-confidence Unexplained anxiety when you are around the same gender as your abuser |
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#11
Jan 18, 2008, 10:24 PM
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Or it could be dissociative amnesia.
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#12
Jan 18, 2008, 11:27 PM
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Good, well-trained and experienced psychologists and those who work with hypnosis don't drag things out of any patient, nor do they lead them to say things. Usually sudden exposure to memories that might contain abuse is not a good thing.
You might try couples therapy, or even sex therapy as your focus (together) just be sure the therapist can handle abuse issues, should they arise. Yes, it is possible you "just" don't remember without anything being in your past, but that would probably require some type of neurological problem, I think, such as from head trauma.
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Jan 20, 2008, 04:23 PM
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</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
Rhapsody said: </font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font> champion said: If something like that had happend to a male from say....his father, what might some of the symptoms be especially as is concerned with intimacy in relationships....fears....interaction with other men? </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Here are a few symptoms I would think someone might have to deal with after going thru incest - as I did. * * * * * * * * * * * Fear of the abuser / men Lack of trust in the abuser / men Anger at the abuser / and the adults that did not protect you Sadness of being betrayed by someone you trusted Confusion - for you still love the abuser (your dad) Poor relationships with other men or a lack of self-confidence Unexplained anxiety when you are around the same gender as your abuser </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Yikes. before I was skeptical and now Im a bit concerned. That all rang home. |
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Jun 22, 2008, 03:15 PM
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I had on going sexual abuse for a while and I do not remeber my sister has memeries of it happening to me but I do not remember but one episode I think the brain blocks it out so u do not have to handle it but you still know something is wrong.
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#15
Jun 23, 2008, 06:07 PM
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Thinking about it, I would think anything is possible. Thinking about my childhood there are some moments when I was really young that I remember like the back of my hand, and some memories I do not remember at all, even if I look at a picture. So I do think it is possible.
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#16
Jun 29, 2008, 12:24 AM
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Wow. This hits a question of mine precisely. I was abused by a member of the clergy (long story, but it was brought to justice).
My wife and I struggle with intimacy. Actually, she wants me to bring her joy, just like she brings me joy. there is something in this beautiful, complicated mind of mine that restricts or hinders the urge to get intimate with my wife more often. Great question. I hope you find hope and help here. |
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