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Grand Poohbah
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Jul 20, 2008 at 10:55 PM
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I'm still not sure if I am asexual. I am still a virgin. I have no interest in sex whatsoever. I see sex as something disgusting and I have no intention in getting involved in it. My best friend suggested that I might be asexual so i'm still trying to figure myself out.
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Jul 21, 2008 at 07:37 AM
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I looked up asexual in the dictionary...it means you are independent of sexual processes at this point....I wouldn't be worried or jump to conclusions...how old are you? Perhaps you have not met the right person yet? I was a virgin until I was twenty-seven simplt because I hadn't met the right person yet sex did seem disgusting with the wrong person...write back and tell us more?
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Aug 03, 2008 at 03:53 AM
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Well, your might be surprised that asexuality is more common than popular culture articulates. According to "7 tabbos That are Perfectly Natural", in Psychology today, asexual behavior occurs more frequent than conveyed by the media. Whether or not you fullfill the "articficial criterion" for asexuality in the DSM, you should love you for who you are. Also, within the humanist tradition don't base the picture of yourself on arbitrary conditions of worth.
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Sep 03, 2008 at 08:41 PM
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Yeah-- I used to think i was asexual. Completely felt like you did. Tried to force myself to do a lot of stuff with guys to convince myself I could do it. But hated every second of it. Found it disgusting....then I realized.... It's because I am a lesbian. I'd been repressing thoughts of being gay my entire life. I can even remember times when the words "am I a lesbian" ran through my mind and I'd instantly think "heck no, that is sick and disgusting no way that could be the case..." well... it IS the case and it's not so bad! And, I'm most definitely NOT asexual. That was the case with me. May not be the case with you but could be possible. Also, as someone else posted before, don't rush! You may not have found the right person yet... very, very true no matter what your orientation. Good luck. |
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Sep 06, 2008 at 05:50 PM
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Dear Kitty,
My thoughts are, your sexual orientation has not yet developed, due to the childhood sexual abuse; you suffered. You are, quite understandably, revolted by sex, not indifferent to sex. An asexual individual, has no sexual desire, no emotion regarding sex. You have a strong, negative emotion regarding sex. I see from your profile, you are studying psychology. Are you currently active in counseling or therapy? You can deal with the past, and have a healthy sexual orientation, regardless of what it may be, including asexuality. I wish you the best, Larry |
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Grand Poohbah
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Sep 06, 2008 at 09:11 PM
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thank you for the responses everyone, I still think that i'm asexual, i have no interest in sexual activities, and i don't think i will ever have any interest.
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Oct 12, 2008 at 02:53 PM
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I'm sexually avoidant but not asexual. Patrick Carnes wrote a good book about this called "Sexual Anorexia: Overcoming Sexual Self-Hatred".
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Oct 12, 2008 at 07:16 PM
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Not sure if this would apply to you but often medications can affect sex drive. Just something to consider. I actually wondered for a long time if I was asexual but after some discussion with my doctor I learned that it may be medication.
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Oct 12, 2008 at 10:48 PM
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i'm not taking any meds. |
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Oct 18, 2008 at 07:50 PM
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Woha!!! I just posted something similar to this. I have the same problem. Sex really revolts me. I have considered that maybe I was lesbian, but the truth is sex with anyone revolts me. It would have been so easy if I was. Sometimes I get really angry about sex! Like to the point where I've alienated people because of it. I currently have a boyfriend and I just feel too dirty to deal with being in a relationship, but I'm learning to chill out.
I know I was sexually abused when I was 12 but, I don't know about anything earlier. I suspect there was something earlier though just because I was like this before it happened, which made me become VERY VEEEEEEEEERY upset and my molestor and I scared him out of my life. BWAHAHAHA asshole. |
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Oct 19, 2008 at 04:25 PM
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i totally relate to this. 
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Oct 19, 2008 at 10:31 PM
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really?
I have been wanting someone to understand me for SO long!!! I feel like I must be crazy sometimes! Why is everyone obsessed with something so yucky? To make it worse, I felt bad because of my feelings about sex. I would get REALLY angry at people and I didn't exactly know why, I just knew they thought I was being a psycho *****, when really I was in pain and didn't want to be yelling at them. I had a similar stigma to drinking, in fact I almost feel my sex stigma is connected. I recently started drinking because I was getting sick of that stigma and thought maybe trying it would get rid of it...but it didn't. In fact I almost became an alcoholic and I realized it was because I felt naughty and craved that. I think I should see a psychologist. |
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