[j.p555]

OK so since this place is like my new best friend now(lol) I know i wont get called nasty names for being bi but heres my problem: Im bi and no one knows! and its getting very hard to hide it.. and wut makes it worse is that i go to a strict catholic acaemy for school and i dont wanna be there! They dont accept my talents and with so many kids its hard to get noticed! Im a wonderful dancer and singer and i want to go to this school called Victoria school of the preforming arts. my sister goes there and its a very accepting school. But my mother has apparently found god in her life and wont let me leave the catholic school! I've tried talking to my dad but he does and says wut my mother says. Any ideas of how i can get out of this school and tell them im bi? because im going crazy by being at this school. Please reply!:Bawling:

Maybe teeling them your bi would kill two birds with one stone?
Okay, that was horrible advice, you probably shouldn't follow it
Truth be told, I don't have any good advice for this situation
But I'll still give you a hug anyways

[Irine]

I am so sorry to hear your parent are limmiting you.

But i must say that the post above makes sense to me! I guess one day somehow your parent will find out anyway, or you will have to tell them..they are your family. It is not easy hiding somehtign like that from you family, the people who love you and will always be with you.

I understand that especially for your Mom it will be hard to except, but maybe not? who knows?

You may ttry talk to her and mention it in a conversation, just to know what she thinks of such...without giving her a clue that you are bi...(you mean be sexual? sorry i don`t know what exactly bi is)

How old are you? You can`t make any decissions of your own?

It`s really sad to hear that parents force something on their childred, her christian beliefs have nothing to do with you. She can keep going to church and let you study where you want to.

[being]

make your dicision

[iamtwilight]

ugh.... toughie toughie! i realized i was bi (more specifically pansexual) when i was 14. i didn't start dating until i was 16 and managed to establish relationships with males. i guess i never met my type of women and the ones i did meet were not interested in me currently i'm dating a man so i haven't had to tell my parents yet... i know they would disprove.. my sister being very religious, dad publicly announcing if the church starts accepting gay marriages he will convert to islamic...

if you have a close relationship with your parents... then ok. you can probably disclose this information. but since you feel doubtful about it - i'd recommend if you feel the need for them to know, do it when you've moved out. that way, if they disprove, they won't torment you 24/7.

sorry i couldn't be of more help good luck in figuring out what's best for you - either way i'm glad you are proud of who you are and are willing to express it to your loved ones.


twilight

[Lenny]

I don't know how old you are JP but if I could put any value upon any advice I could give..the highest value would go to...

Don't waste any moments in this very short life of ours by living someone elses life...

It is good to be concerned for those we love and to be sensitive to their feelings,,,but not at the cost of our own.

In a blink it will be five years from now,,,and like a short nap twenty will be history...

Be who you are and Love all those around you...and that Love will come back,,,a thousand fold...

As far as school goes,,,make your case in the very best way you can...maybe write down all the advantages of this choice...offer this to your parents when they are most available for this type of discussion..

Discuss it with a passion that cannot be mis-understood.

If you are underage,,,you probably will have to accept their decision if it doesn't go your way...at least for now..

Go back to the drawing board and build a better case...sometimes parents are looking for a persistence...one founded on good judgement..

Good luck...

Lenny

[devito]

sorry to hear of your familiar dilema. well i am of the thought that i would wonder why you feel that you need to tell your parents while still depandent on them ? esp. since they are so right wingy dingy god fearing folk. from my personal experience telling them just makes them challenge you as they grapple with their dissaproval. When i tried to impose my values of such on my parents they were not shocked nor amused. Then when I got older and realized that I was not gay but a transexual, of course that was less shameful for them but they still did not want to be mentioned when I was on a talk show years later. At this point I am post opt. and happy with who i am and have not even talked with them for 13 years. they brought me into this world and are who they are and i am who i am living and let living. I have always found others with a larger capacity to love me than they seem to. good for you that you know already that you are pan sexual. Took me awhile later to realize that i was not so hetro but pan. live on sister and you do not need to tell them all yet. d