I am not into *** play but I wonder if i should just grin and bear it . . . after all we all make sacrifices for our partner do we not? When do I draw the line and tell her that I am not into this? It's not hurting me and my safety is not at risk, so perhaps I could let her have her fun?

[helenoftroy]

Hi there, if you're not into it then I think you need to be honest and say so...If she loves you, wants to see you comfortable and actually enjoying it then I'm sure she'll listen...just say, hey I'd really like it if you do it this way or you know, I really like it when...I dunno, figure out a way but if you're not comfortable then say something...after all it is your body

Originally Posted by helenoftroy

Hi there, if you're not into it then I think you need to be honest and say so...If she loves you, wants to see you comfortable and actually enjoying it then I'm sure she'll listen...just say, hey I'd really like it if you do it this way or you know, I really like it when...I dunno, figure out a way but if you're not comfortable then say something...after all it is your body

Yes, this is the way to go if you're very much against trying new things. If you like new things, you could be in for a surprise. Or not, but you don't know that yet. You should tell her that you're not into it but don't decide that it's something you don't like before you actually know.

She has let me do something that she's not particularly into and I have mentioned this in a previous thread, so I feel like I owe her one. But I don't think I will ever be into this, and it does make me a little uncomfortable because she is essentially treating me like an object.

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

She has let me do something that she's not particularly into and I have mentioned this in a previous thread, so I feel like I owe her one. But I don't think I will ever be into this, and it does make me a little uncomfortable because she is essentially treating me like an object.

I think you should be careful about doing something like this because you feel you owe it to her.

Is there an acceptable anatomical term for your "****?" And can she explain why exactly this is fun?

[Harley47]

I agree...if either one of you isn't comfortable with something, I don't think it should be done. I don't think trading one uncomfortable act for another is going to be wise in the long term either.

Nothing at all wrong with trying new things, and indeed, it might be a pleasant surprise trying new things, so to speak. But if you have a limit, you have a limit. Mutual respect of each other's limits is a good thing to have in a relationship.

EDIT: God I HATE my campus internet!

I'll try to have a moderator get rid of the extras. Sorry about that.

[Maven]

I agree. Be honest, don't go beyond your boundaries but don't be afraid to try new things. You might find a better place to hide your keys.

[LiteraryLark]

There are boundaries, and an*l, especially when the male is receiving, is not something to be taken lightly. Do not feel obligated to do this simply because she's done something for you that she didn't like. It will only leave the two of you unhappy.

[Big Mama]

be very careful. If you already know this makes you feel like an object then then it might not be the best choice for you. Some guys like **** and others do not. we all have preferences. It is not up to her to decide what she wants for you to receive. If you tried it and don't like it then there is not much of a need to try it again. If how ever you have not tried it you might like it, or just the thought of it may be enough to you from going somewhere you are not supposed to go. We all have boundaries and if we push our own boundaries then we only hurt ourselves. If we allow others to push them then we hurt ourselves and it affects the way we see the person we are with. That kind of emotional hurt my friend doesn't leave when the person you are with moves on. If things don't work out w/ you two the feeling of being used and allowing it stays w/ you forever.

That is just my very one sided opinion. Things that have happened to me cause me to feel this way and may not necessarily be true for you.

[CantExplain]

As a general rule, what your lover does to you is often what she (subconsciously) wants you to do to her.

I used to spank my wife. She used to put up with it but she didn't enjoy it.
But it turns out we are both much happier now that she spanks me.