[guyj]

Hi my partner has recently lost all intrest in sex completely, im not sure how to approach the situation my partner is on tablets for depression and i have heard this can be one of many side affects... if so does anyone know what i can do to help her and how long it could be till she gains intrest back in sex! I have a high sex drive and this is frustrating as we had a really good sex life up untill now! Any advice would be much appreciated...

[deliquesce]

i think it's something you should bring up with her directly, and encourage her to discuss with her treating doc. my doc was always careful to make sure i hadn't "lost my libido" (i was 20 at the time, and nearly died when he asked me how it was going) and i know there are other ADs out there that might have less of a disruptive effect.

of course, with depression, it's also possible that this is just on of her symptoms. e.g. loss of pleasure and interest to do things. i think the best way you could support her would be to not put pressure on her to do sexual things, but maybe do sensual things together - to keep that physical intimacy? e.g., give her a massage, and vice versa.

the sex will come back.

[yeronimo]

Originally Posted by deliquesce

i think it's something you should bring up with her directly, and encourage her to discuss with her treating doc. my doc was always careful to make sure i hadn't "lost my libido" (i was 20 at the time, and nearly died when he asked me how it was going) and i know there are other ADs out there that might have less of a disruptive effect.

of course, with depression, it's also possible that this is just on of her symptoms. e.g. loss of pleasure and interest to do things. i think the best way you could support her would be to not put pressure on her to do sexual things, but maybe do sensual things together - to keep that physical intimacy? e.g., give her a massage, and vice versa.

the sex will come back.

i think you need to attached to your partner emotionally!
try to discover another activities!

[First Impressions]

I understand the frustration on both sides here. I too, take meds for depression and I know that it had effected me in that area. My hubby has been so tolerate. I talked to my doctor about the problem and he decided to change my meds. I am starting that now. Hope it helps. Frustrated here too.

Maybe she needs to talk to her doctor. The side effects of loss of interest is common. Can't hurt to try.

[salukigirl]

I used to be on wellbutrin, not only did it make cigarettes taste horrible (im a smoker) but it also made me lose pretty much all interest in sex. But having sex can actually increase your sex drive. Sometimes when Im not in the mood, my boyfriend and I will fool around for 5 or 10 minutes and I will get in the mood. Maybe if you just approach her like that playfully it will get her wanting it. And, not surprisingly, the more you do it, the more you want it lol. I also agree that you should bring it up and see how she feels about it. It could be something completely different thats affecting her moods and it could be something fixable. You wont know until you ask

[AAAAA]

I agree that the direct approach is the best. I've been on a variety of antidepressants and not only can they bring your sex drive to zero, Effexor and another I cannot remember made me viturally numb from the waist down. Hubby worked so hard to get me in the mood (and that did work, massage, cuddling etc) but no matter what we did before, during or after, I wasn't finishing. This was making me frustrated and angry.

She may not be aware that it's the meds, I wasn't.