[littlemisstewart]

at least with me, I guess... Well..we've been married for only a couple of years and since we got married a lot of stress about finding our path (specially economically) was on our shoulders. Right that day our sex life changed, if I can still call it that. He was for some time under a lot of stress, but it did come and go, and still there was no sex, just once every other week. I kept hearing everyone talking about how insatiable the men in their lives were and I felt sick to my stomach, envious, sad, ugly...
By then my image hadn't changed at all fron the time we got married, but I started to realize I was kind of becoming just a wife image for him, not a woman anymore...well, I'm not sure.
At the beginning I could talk to him, argue with him, try to seduce him, give him hints, everything!! I know men don't like to be confronted about sex!! it's been pretty hard on my self-esteem..
I've always been pursued by men!! and now my own husband doesn't want me?? I cry and laugh at the same time.
Then, somehow I got pregnant, in of those random old people sex routines (it seems I'm really fertile) and of course things became a LOT more complicated.. I gained weight, we're tired, we don't have time...etc
7 months have gone by and I've lost most of my weight; everything in our relationship besides that is going great..I feel we're more connected than ever...we love each other more than ever...we spend sooo much time together...he compliments me on everything all the time and looks at me with love..
still the sex part drives me crazy!!
when I remind him we haven't had sex for a couple of weeks I get upset, mad, sad y asks for forgiveness, says he wants me, he's just been busy and tired, we end up having sex maybe two times that week, and the cycle starts again.
I don't know what to do!!!?
I've though about a possible affair he might me having...even the possibility he might be gay?? This drives me insane!!!!

[Rhapsody]

Your situation sounds common for a married couple in the middle of financial stress and a new born baby.... I would suggest that you pull back from verbally reminding your husband that you have not had sex in the last (how ever many weeks) and start by loving him with your eyes, time together and touch through out the days you spend together and then when you are in the mood (without saying a word) touch and gentle caress your man while in bed at night until you can tell that he is ready for some love making.... then take the evening to the next level - to a place where both of you will receive some much needed sexual pleasure.

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I have found that my man is less likely to indulge in sex if I hound him about it.... but more likely to finish the act with me if I take matters into my own hands - we both win this way... even if it is only once a week.