[injuredfilly]

i've been having feelings for other girls (no one specific just general) but how do i know if my feelings are real? i've never been in a relationship with and male or female and i just wish i had someone - but how do i know that the feelings are real and not just me being desperate ?
Its really confusing and logically i know i shouldnt be confused and i accept my feelings and that i cant change them. But emotionally i'm all over the place

[notz]

Have you experienced feelings for the same sex before or just now?

[injuredfilly]

Originally Posted by notz

Have you experienced feelings for the same sex before or just now?

Not that i've really thought about but there has been a number of times i've fantasised about it before now and i sort of made comments about it early last year months before i thought about it seriously.

The thought that just keeps coming to me now is y would anyone male or female want to be with me! I just feel so worthless! I saw my GP yesterday and it was the first time in months that she did the whole do u have the lifeline numbers and emergency numbers

All i really want is someone to hug me and tell me its going to be alright! My family doesnt even care that much about me

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[notz]

y would anyone male or female 
want to be with me!

Because you're insightful, loving and have a good sense of humor for starters! (those quotes you have as your signature are funny!).

You do matter! I know that hunger for physical companionship. Sometimes the more basic instinctual urges can be instrumental in causing us to make decisions that may not have been based on our best thinking. Throw in a few drinks at a party and you have a likely recipe for possible remorse and regret. So, try not to do that.

My wish for you is to consider having a therapist help you sort through some of the things that are causing you questions and anxiety. You just had a physical with a medical doctor, why not consider a check up on the mindful side? (mindful--less intimidating than mental!)

It's my understanding that it's not at all uncommon to periodically fantasize about the sex you're not predominately attracted to. I know it's true for me on occasion. But if you believe you may be a lesbian then get a therapist to help you explore this. And remember, thoughts just happen, they just are...your actions are your defining moments.