[shaggy dog]

I've had two dreams recently in regards to a volatile relationship I had with my mom. The first dream was on the Saturday night before Mother's Day. In it we were having a pretty nasty argument with me doing most of yelling until she stated yelling back. Eventually though mom played the wounded victim and laid all the guilt at my feet. In the second dream mom and I were arguing again but this time I was the one with the hurt feelings. I threatened to leave the home and never come back. My dad jumped in and said he was tired of listening to us argue and threatened me physically. He told me to leave and never come back. I had never seen him so angry. These dreams are made even more haunting to me because my mom died in 2002 and my dad died in 2007. I wish I could tell my mom I'm sorry. With tears in my eyes I thank you for listening.

[Perna]

Hi, shaggy dog, welcome to PsychCentral (PC).

I think it was pretty common for you to dream of your mom and aspects of the relationship since you were probably thinking a lot about that over the mother's day week? I kind of like that you both had the hurt feelings; if it were my dream that would remind me how alike my stepmother and I were, even though we had trouble getting along. My stepmother was pretty controlling when I was growing up but I came to learn through therapy that that was because she was basically anxious, like I was. She had a pretty scary life in many aspects and tried to make things go the way she wanted and understood. Of course we fought, because I was wanting the same thing for my own life.

I gathered from your last comments that you didn't tell your mom you were sorry very often? My mom and I would usually always make up but then argue again over and over.