[dontknowwhattosay]

I don't know what to say to my teenage son that says he has sex dreams about me and gets aroused thinking about them in the days to follow.

[medkev13]

Freud says that boys seek out their mother in their partners, and girls seek out their father. It's not that big of a jump to go to dreams. When you say teenage do you mean like 13-15, 16/17, or like 18/19? Earlier on, this could simply be part of going through the end of puberty. Later on, it would have more of a...symbolic...meaning.

For symbolism, sex relates to a wanting of connectedness...the dreamer seeks to know this other character in the dream deeper. And in the dream, you are representing part of his own personality - the part of himself that he sees getting from you. Having sex in the dream is his subconscious trying to reconcile this need to connect with the part of himself that relates to you.

Don't call the dream anything negative. It is what it is, and most people have no control over their dream images (and those that do have control typically have to struggle to maintain that type of capability). I'm thinking there's something to be said for teenage hormones here, too. Regardless of the fact that this is you he's dreaming of - sex is still sex in the eyes of a teenager. Boy hormones don't tend to distinguish between tabboo sex and status quo sex. What's important is that he understands that it's just a dream and it's not something to be acted upon. Again, though...that is something that differs depending on how old of a teenager your son is.