[rocketc]

I need your help. For years I've been having various dreams and they seem to have a recurring theme. The only similarity between the dreams is the objectives in the dreams are never achieved, and obstacles continue to appear out of nowhere to delay the main objective.

For example, last night I had a dream about sex. In the dream I'm with a woman and we're getting ready to have sex, and I say, "Let me go get the room ready, I'll be right back." Now for some reason I need a blanket, then I need sheets for the bed, then I need to plug in a TV for an adult movie, then I don't have the right cords to hook up the DVD player. Next I'm searching for something like a TV stand, to try to get everything ready. I have this feeling in the dream that if I don't hurry up, she will have changed her mind or won't be there anymore, but these chores are endless. Then I wake up.

Another example: I'm in a strange house with freakish things going on. Like a creepy feeling straight out of a horror movie. I'm with people I know and I'm going to conquer whatever is wrong in this home. I find a secret doorway which leads to even more evil, but with a sense I'm close to understanding or confronting what's haunting this house. Then I find another corridor, compartment, pathway, room, or puzzle to unlock the mystery, but it leads to another and another and eventually I wake up, having never fixed the problem. I've had this exact dream countless times, identical theme, different houses.

I might be a huge lottery winner but I have to claim my prize by midnight tomorrow and whatever happens I cannot get there. Traffic jams, car breakdowns, power grid failures, the wrong address, etc. If I do arrive there, I will not have the ticket, or it will have expired the day before, or the numbers will no longer match. Anything and everything will keep my goal from me in my dream.

I have dreams with this theme frequently and they NEVER get to the "main objective" and there are always seemingly insignificant, but mandatory steps which must be completed before getting to the "main objective." The list of steps will always increase and prevent the "main objective." There is not a feeling of complete #1-#5 and then you will be rewarded. It is always just this one more thing, but then there's a problem or another one more thing. Like being so close but never quite there. Or maybe it's a desire that is never fulfilled. I don't know.

I can't recall any dreams I have had where the opposite happened. No dreams where the main objective is ever reached, or where I was rewarded, or rewarded and then lost the reward, it never happens that way.

I need to understand this in a meaningful way, any help would be appreciated. I want understanding the most, but I would also comforted to know if other people experience this regularly or exclusively like I do. Thanks in advance.

[medkev13]

each scenario has a sort of different twist to the theme. The sex dream is a desire to connect with other parts of yourself. The haunted house dream is a desire to overcome some darker part of yourself (the house is effectively your body).

What we see is that your subconscious is acknowledging that there is something about you that continuously forces you into roadblocks and never allows you to complete a project. Sort of like an author that always has to plan and work out every last detail, but never actually gets to -write- (that was me using myself as an analogy :P). Consider this - why couldn't you have simply laid your partner down and had sex on the floor? Is there any real end to the corridors in the haunted house?

Some things to ask yourself ::

In what ways are you not accomplishing your goals while awake?
What things within yourself are keeping you from completing said goals? (Ignore the circumstantial here. Your not having sex was not because of the obstacles but because things had to be just so before you could have sex).
How are these parts of yourself affecting other areas of your life?
How can you overcome these self-defeating tendencies?