[PaulieD]

Who I am: 32-year-old male average family married 4 years Two kids business owner

The dream: I was walking through vast wasteland that was somewhere in the U.S. After quite some time I met up with death not the Act of death but the person that Dark hooded rob Syckle you get the picture. We spoke for quite some time and somehow the conversation was turned around To the topic of sex.

After more conversation I end up giving him a hand job And he return the favor by performing oral sex on me. In the dream at the point of orgasm is when I woke up and I discovered that it was more than a dream was a wet dream.

I have dreamt before of having sex with men that also resulted Is a wet-dream this doesn't bother me so much although I read other forms that it is quite normal For men to have wet dreams involving other men.

I do not consider myself homosexual even though I have had numerous homosexual encounters in the past I am currently married to a woman of four years And I have been monogamous in this relationship. With the exception of occasionally viewing homosexual pornography.

Overall the homosexual act in the dream do not bother me as much as it being intimate with death and imagery that projects. I know the dream interpretation is not an exact science and is different for everyone but does anybody have any thoughts on this dream and what it could mean?

[WhiteClouds]

Good Morning Paulie,
If you do not mind I will give you what I get from the dream. If you do not agree with my analysis. It is okay. With that said, here goes.
Death represents many things in dreams. Not necessarily death. In your dream, the figure represents PAST. Past interactions, sensations, etc. that you were comfortable with. It also represents what you have told yourself is no longer "okay" since you're now married.
The sensation/ fantasy presenting itself as a DARK figure indicates in your subconscious you do not want to be okay with this. If it was something you weren't trying to suppress or leave behind it would present itself in another way. It would've present as someone you saw, someone you know, a celeb, etc.
To deal with the dream presenting as a dark figure you will have to process the sensation, why you're having these thoughts, and what you will do about them. Ironically you're fueling them in a sense. Do your wife know about the pornography? I'm sure she does'nt, hence it is a secret (darkness). So they fantasy will continue to present itself as a dark figure. It is a possibility these thoughts represent death to your current lifestyle. Meaning the fear of losing your family or reputation. (something to consider
Time to bring some light into the equation. Discussing this with someone. A friend, counselor, spiritual leader, your spouse. Expressing your truth, no matter what it will be.

Hope this helps some. Be well.

Belle

[PaulieD]

Good insight makes since. When my wife and first met I told her about my past and that I was comfortable with who I was. Then friendship turned into friends with benefits now marriage we have not discussed homosexuality at all since our marriage and it is very difficult for me because before when we talked she was ok with possible encounters as long I was with her when I was with her.

Now she has been diagnosed with MS and our love life is strained because when I want it she can't and when she wants it I can't because I'm worried about her condition and current state.

I feel that if I were to have any kind of activity with a man I would be betraying her because of our current lacking in the bedroom.

[WhiteClouds]

Hi Paulie,
Your feeling of betrayal indicate your devotion to your wife and marriage. However your subconscious is only reinterating what you believe about the fantasy. You feel like the fantasies are wrong, bad, dangerous, betraying, dark. You may be surprised how expressing this to your spouse may help both of you. Explore ways to be intimate with your spouse. In your dream you saw 2 ways to receive pleasure. Discuss them with her. See how it goes. I pray all goes well.

Belle