[girlwithbrownhair]

I had a dream that broke my heart. I dreamed me and my sister were back in our parent's house and were young (she's older by 6 years), and she came to me missing a hand. In my dream, she tore it off somewhere in the house. It devestated me because she kept acting like it was nothing, until she realized how serious it was and began to cry, but by that time it was too late to reattach her hand. (it wasn't bloody, but just a...stump).

I can still see her arm, minus the hand...very upsetting. I felt helpless and was sort of upset that she hadn't come to me when she tore her hand off, so that I could have helped. Any ideas what it means?

[Thunder Bow]

This may mean you are no longer hanging on to on to your parents place any more.

[Atypical_Disaster]

Do you feel powerless to help your sister in the present at all? Or did you feel that way while growing up for any reason?

[girlwithbrownhair]

Thank your both for your replies.

Disaster: Hmmm. She has issues with...being one of those people who has to save everybody. Including me. Which I am most grateful for. But yes, I feel helpless to help her. And it hurts.

Right now she is having issues with her significant other, a man who suffered a serious neuroligical blow some years back. Basically, he has lingering issues and he while he helps my sister around the house, he has to be led, like a child, to do anything for himself. Liek today, they just came back from the ER due to his refusal to see a doctor earlier this week. And he's having serious surgery later this week. So my sister lost her entire weekend taking care of him. He's on disability, but she has to commute an hour and 20 minutes two days a day to a hugely stressful job (she's an engineer in government). I just think she's overwhelmed but don't know how to help or if I should.

When asked, she always insists everything's ok, but I can sense thigns are not. She just discovered her oldest son and his gilrfriend and having a baby...neither has a good job and her son still has two years to get his degree. I wish I could just go there and have a cup of coffee with her and be with her when she needs help, but I live 3 states away and don't have a car.

I've been thinking, and wonder if the hand literally means her boyfriend...her "right hand"... and "Oh, I'm ok" then dissolving in tears when she wants her arm back and realizes it's too late to do anything. **sigh**

I never felt terribly helpless to help her when I was younger, but there might be something subconscious there, I suppose. Need to think on that.

It's all quite...complicated.

Originally Posted by Atypical_Disaster

Do you feel powerless to help your sister in the present at all? Or did you feel that way while growing up for any reason?

[Thunder Bow]

Take care of yourself first. Missing hand and arm could mean she or you are unable to reach out.