[Liinu]

I tries googling this, but came up with nothing.

Tonight I had this strange dream. I was in my dorm and there were a lot of my old classmates from high school in different rooms. At some point, I found a ring in a box with a note in front of me. It was an engagement ring. I tried it on and it was a bit too big and I actually thought that I had to accept for a moment but then I thought like.. wait, what. I don't want to get married. So I went to find the guy. I found his brother who I know in real life. In my dream they were brothers. I never saw the actual guys' face, but I know that he isn't someone I actually know in real life. So I asked where he was and they pointed me to a room.

There were many people there.. They were playing a game. I moved past them and knelt down right next to him. I placed the box with the ring in front of him, hugged him, kissed his head and said "I'm sorry" and then left. And then I woke up, feeling as crappy as I would if I actually had to reject a proposal.

it's been bugging me the whole day.

[Thunder Bow]

Fear of Risk taking? Fear of making an emotional commitment? Maybe now you are ready to do so.

You stepped around all the game playing and found him and was true to your own feelings with him. The thought of getting married is a bit to big right now.

[smiles4you]

if you have dreams about snakes biting you what does this mean ive been having these dreams since i was little

[Perna]

I got stuck on "engagement". Have you been pulling away from someone or trying to avoid something? Do you joke too much or feel another does and treats something serious as though it were "just a game"? Interesting that you found the brother first, the mirror instead of the actual person, like not only are you not/don't wish to be engaged with this guy but you don't even know/want to know where he is/him.

[Liinu]

Yeah, it was like.. Everyone was around and I was with the brother at some point. he was comforting me because I guess he knew that I was gonna reject the proposal and I felt bad.
It bugs me that I never saw his face.. And at that moment.. When I gave him the ring back and hugged him. I literally felt that I loved him. It was so odd because I've never loved anyone. Not really. Not like that.

I'm even more confused now.

And nothing has been different lately. No new guys in my life.. I joke as much as I used to. And I do take serious things seriously. And I'm not avoiding anything or anyone. I don't know.. It was so strange.

[Liinu]

So.. Two more dreams. In one, my sister had a baby with her ex. In the other one, I was running away from my wedding (again..) claiming that my dress was the wrong style.

[Thunder Bow]

You are still not ready for an emotional commitment.

[Liinu]

Well yes, that's true. I'm not. But what's confusing is the timing of these dreams. I haven't had anything close to a commitment in years because I don't want to. There hasn't been a guy around lately. What's with the dreams? it's bugging me. -.-

[yellowted]

i would say it is definitely about comitment, but not necesserily about comitting to a relationship, it could be comitting to a job, a place to live, a decision, a therapist or anything that you have been subconciously worried about comitting to.

[Thunder Bow]

Originally Posted by Liinu

Well yes, that's true. I'm not. But what's confusing is the timing of these dreams. I haven't had anything close to a commitment in years because I don't want to. There hasn't been a guy around lately. What's with the dreams? it's bugging me. -.-

In my 1st post I also said you are letting go. No more game playing and more honesty. Letting go of past habits.

[Perna]

Are you in therapy and working on your commitment issue at the moment or thinking about it or, maybe, it's just your subconscious telling you you should be thinking about/working on it at the moment

[bettina_]

Wow, I remember having really similar dreams. I was also at my own wedding, never found out who the guy I was supposed to marry was. Never saw him. I also wanted to get away from the wedding and felt anxious.

[Liinu]

Well I do have serious commitment issues. And no, I'm not currently working on them.