[DebbieM]

Hey everyone.
My name is Debbie. I have NEVER posted in a forum before, but the dream I had on Monday was so incredibly real, vivid, and meaningful, I just have to find out what it means. Also, I am also not very spiritual, nor have I ever believed in an after life, messages from the deceased, or signs of any kind. Until now About me: I am a 49 year old woman with a husband and three teenagers. I run a division of a fairly large company, and for the most part, I am your run of the mill regular gal.
I will try to keep this as short as possible, but what was so unusual about the dream was the details - and I remember them all.
My dream was this:
My entire family, plus pretty much everyone I know was a a party in my mother in laws home. Somehow all of these people fit inside her tiny house. I made my way into her living room, and was all alone. The front door opens, and my friend (my best man at my wedding) Erik walks in. (Erik committed suicide 5 years ago last month, at age 40 - severe depression) Although I was shocked to see him, it seemed totally natural. I asked him "what are you doing here? Your dead" He told me that after someone dies, they can come back earth at anytime, and see their loved ones. But they cant let the loved ones see them. I asked how he got here. He pointed to a chair that was in the middle of the room. This chair was more of a ultra modern, s-curved clear Lucite lounger. We spoke a bit, and he seemed very sad still. I asked if he sees another friend that passed just this passed October, and he said yes. I asked about my dad. Erik said he sees him too. I then asked Erik if I can use the chair to go see my dad, and Erik said "sure, but time is the same at my 2nd home, so you better hurry as to not worry Hubby and the kids if you missing for long" I asked what do I do. He told me to lay in the chair, belly down. Not to be scared, and when I get there, to put on the white shirt.
I climbed on the chair, it lit up w pastel colors, and it vibrated a little. Next thing I know I am in a big home. It was actually more like the worlds largest hotel. I got off the chair, and saw a table with a white, gauze, long sleeve shirt. I put it on over my clothes. A man and woman can into the room (which reminded me of my parents den - dark paneling on the walls, braided rugs, fireplace, brown tweed couches) This couple was very nice. They said "oh, a visitor. How nice. Who are you here to see?" I gave them my farther's name, and they said they don't know him, but we will help you find him"
After walking around the place and just chatting, we were in a card room, where others were playing cards, and my dad turned the corner. I was calm, but happy. I said "daddy!!" He was surprised to see me, and we hugged. He looked like he did when I was a little girl. We sat down at a card table, with the first couple and started playing cards. (which was not something we did on a regular basis - that I can remember) He told me that he was happy, and that dying was not such a bad thing. I shouldn't be afraid of death. I asked him if he visits earth, and he said "all the time. I check on you, hubby and the kids a lot" He told me about a specific trip to Starbucks - and he had all the details of what I drank and ate, and where I went after. That made me very happy. He said he was happy my mom is doing well without him finally. He said "I have the bedroom set up just like mommy would like, so she is happy when she gets here.
After some more cards, he gave me a tour of the place, and told me I should go back. I said OK and got on the chair and left. Back to my mother in laws house, as if I wasn't gone.

*** there are so many tiny details I left out because I didn't want to make this too long or boring for you! ***

One more bizzare thing - this dream happened between 3 am and 8:30 am Monday morning. My alarm clock is ALWAYS set on my iPhone for 7:15 am. Monday morning, immediately after my dream I woke up. Looked at the alarm clock and it read 8:25. I really don't think I turned it off and went back to sleep!! My husband over slept too!! (this freaked me out a little) When I got to work, I checked my email and Facebook. Turns out Monday was Erik's sons birthday, and I got a notification a friend from HS passed away that morning.
I have also been worrying about my 81 year old mom. She lives far from me, and hasn't been feeling well.

In case dates mean anything, my moms birthday is July 19. My parents anniversary is June 29. Erics sons bday is July 1st. My anniversary is Aug 21. Erik died June 24.

Any thoughts about this dream? Does it mean anything? I know it must.
Thanks for taking the time to read all this. I have been thinking about this non stop - not in a bad way - but in a peaceful, happy way.

[Thunder Bow]

Keeping appointments is part of your waking life. That is why all the times and dates.The dream is about your desire to escape all that, and return to the unhurried times of your childhood. Time for a Vacation? Book Now!

[medkev13]

Well...I try very VERY hard to not jump to the spiritual side of dreaming. I'm like the Catholic church - it requires a lot to have me admit to something beyond the standard image subconscious world. That being said, that you don't normally dream so vividly (the term is actually lucidly), and that you and hubby both overslept...AND that the details given to you were SO specific (like the Starbucks visit)...well, I'd give serious thought to it having a spiritual visit. It's not the same context as having visions, just more like a way to interact with those you've lost. Today's date is within a month of all the dates you gave, so in part this is your mind relating to -all- of those dates as being close to the "now" point in time.

Dreams, unless a prophetic dream, which plays by a whole other set of rules, other dreams still relate back to how the subconscious mind works...and that has a LOT to do with archetypes and imagery...

In your dream, every character relates to you. Your mind is very self centered, and any character is usually a reflection of something you recognize within yourself. Some trait you see shared between you and your friend has brought them into mind. Same with your dad. Same with....every person in your dream, if you had the focus and time to investigate that deeply. I think the more interesting point for dream imagery is that you were at your mother in law's house. Usually a building represents the physical body - so the house would be you and every character within it is part of your own personality. But here we see that you are making a connection between you and your mother in law. Sooo, either you feel a sameness with her or you are feeling out of place in where you are. And crowded, that is very prevalent too. It shows when you say you don't know how all the people fit in such a tiny house. Thunder Bow seems to hit on something with a need for escape, as boiled down as it was... but I think there's more of that as a surface issue. Perhaps this feeling of being crowded is a diversion, hiding something deeper that's prodding at your subconscious.

Presuming there is some legitimate visit going on, the detailing of your Starbucks visit would be providing you proof of truth. Bottom line though si that your whole journey of the visit was re-connection. Is this something you're feeling like you're missing in life? Being surrounded by people, but you don't feel you're connected with any of them? Just a thought to consider.