Grandma poking me and trying to fall asleep?

I actually haven't been having any strange dreams lately, until last night. It was the most annoying dream I've had so far.
I can only remember small chunks from it, but I do remember one scene very clearly. I was in a small bedroom with 2 beds. They were very small (twin beds) and had very colorful blankets on them. They looked almost psychedelic! I don't remember anyone else in bed with me, so for some reason I was happy about that. I turned over and closed my eyes. When I did that, I heard the bedroom door open and footsteps entering the room. There was definitely 2 people in my room now. I rolled over...only to find my crush and his girlfriend get into the bed next to me. They were trying to fall asleep. I looked over and they clearly saw me. I didn't say anything, even when they tried to talk to me. After they gave up, he turned and started to talk to her. I closed my eyes and tried to sleep again. The lights turned off so they stopped talking and tried to sleep. I was awoken by a bright light. I opened my eyes to see his girlfriend checking her phone. It was odd because she had the same touch pattern as I have on my phone in real life. After she was done, she lay back down and tried to sleep again. Then, my grandma comes into the room and wants to talk to me. She sits on the bed and I put my finger up to my mouth to quiet her. We converse (I can't remember what we were whispering about). By now, they were sitting up and just watching us. My grandma says goodbye and she pokes me. She poked me so hard that it hurt. She had poked me on my side and said sorry that she forgot how skinny I was (I'm tall and underweight in real life). All I remember was her leaving and all of us going to sleep...with me ever so annoyed by them. Why did I have this dream?

Hi, Pegasister, thanks for sharing your interesting dream fragment.

I suspect, from the touch pattern of your crush's girlfriend's phone being the same as yours that you were using that character in your dream to represent an aspect of yourself. That you have two twin beds and one has you alone and the other has your crush and your "substitute" girlfriend self also shows two sides of you?

If it were my dream, I'd think the grandmother was an older/wiser sort of self and would look at the poking and what she says carefully. That the other two just watched that segment, I would think that "couple" aspect of myself was not involved in that particular grandmother interchange.

The poking immediately reminded me of Hansel and Gretel and how the witch was trying to fatten them up and kept poking them because she could not see well? Are you or have you been treated for an eating disorder or anything? If so, I'd look at how I saw my therapist's job/work with me, whether she might be like the grandmother, "poking" you too hard, etc.?

Again, if it were my dream, I'd look at the couple thing, what I wish and am doing about my crush and I'd look at my therapy or self help work and how I felt about it, whether I felt I was being pushed too hard or was working for someone else's goals, etc.

That you are never quite able to get to sleep, either as a single or couple, is a good thing to me; you don't want to go to sleep/to forget or ignore or not see/understand things that need addressing?

Ah thank you for interpreting my dream. I haven't been treated for an eating disorder. I was close to being anorexic, but I fortunately did not get there. I don't see anything that needs to be addressed. I'm lonely and wish to have a boyfriend (maybe my crush represents this aspect of myself?) I've tried so hard to get his attention...but it clearly never worked. This is why it is becoming hard for me to forget about him as he keeps popping up in my dreams. I am now seeing these characters representing different aspects of myself. These are people who I'd never thougt would represent me!

It could be that your grandmother was just asking, "What's the skinny" with you?

Urban Dictionary: what's the skinny

You want to be the other girl in the other bed, you know that, but you are only "trying to get" his attention? Why have you not gotten his attention, talked to him, told him you would enjoy doing something with him sometime?

In that context, if it were my dream, I'd think I was just watching myself (the couple, one of whom is me, is across the room in another bed; I'm just looking across at them, not "being" that other girl though she is clearly me because she has my phone pattern) instead of taking action. The other couple even tries to communicate and talk to me but I ignore them, trying to sleep, trying to be unconscious of my scary desires. After that, I get my grandmother in there poking me hard and asking me, "Hey, what's up with you? Quit trying to sleep and do something".

I guess you're right about me wanting to be her. That is actually the biggest thing I regret in my life at the moment. When I would talk to him, I always feared that I would say that I liked him. Fear prevented me from saying that. And I guess it's fears fault. I always feared that if I told him how I felt, he would laugh at me. But I guess things happen for a reason. All of my friends say that I could do better as he is 2 years younger than me. I can't help but get this feeling that I wanted to say something in my dream, but fear stopped me from talking. I still can't get over him and its been almost 8 months now. I just don't know what's wrong with me. All I know is, that next time I like someone, I'm going to tell him how I feel! As for my grandma, I haven't really talked to her about this subject. I just really hate how I feel everyday about one stupid decision that I didn't make

It could be thinking about and kicking yourself for the past situation and how you behaved then is safer than looking forward and going out and finding that "someone else" to try to get to know? :-)

If it is fear holding you back, that could be the whole message of the dream, getting you realize the role fear has played and is still playing in your life. It's "easy" to say next time you will do X or Y but that may not be true if you are not practicing being less fearful now? The only way to deal with fear, whether it be of talking to boys or of monsters chasing one in dreams, is to face and address it.

I would take hope from your dream you just had. You did not fall asleep, your unconscious did not let you. You got the whole story, you see you were just "looking" at the couple (past tense, they're just a "memory" of what could have been in that case) and you had your grandmother self poking you, trying to "goad" you into action and not accepting your fear. She spoke in the past tense too, "I forgot you were. . ." to remind you that if you keep doing what you have been doing nothing will change. You have a wonderful unconscious, on your "side" and trying to help you. I love my dreams and always try to pay attention to them when I remember them

I guess my mind is just still kicking myself for what I could have done. It just takes time to fully accept that I never said anything. Hopefully I'll finally find someone. I just hate seeing all of the happy couples -.- Well, as my friend puts it, I have all my life to find someone. Just hope it's soon! Maybe I should talk to my grandma about this and see what she has to say. As for fear, I just have to find a way to over come it...somehow. Talking to guys I like is easier said then done for me. But I got to do it :3

I did not get married until I was 39 I did not meet and start dating my husband until I was 34. Everything that came before was "practice". It takes time and effort to learn how to relate to others to get comfortable with initiating conversation and responding to others, etc. I doubt it will take you all your life, but you have not failed yet, you have just learned some of the lessons necessary. It's fine to say/know, "I'm afraid" but then you get your lesson and regret having not spoken up and that puts the experience of your fear front and center where you have to decide, do I want to be alone and lonely or do I want to learn to respond bravely and put myself out there, vulnerable, to see if I can win the prize?

Wow! Now that you put it like that I guess I still have somewhat of a chance these occurrences which I call "failures" are actually lessons that I have learned. I'm going to college next year, so maybe then I can start talking to new people :3 unfortunately I have never dated....I've never even had my first kiss and I'm 17 years old Most if not all of my friends have already done so. I guess this just means that I haven't found "the one" yet and that I shouldn't be down about it all of the time ^^ I just have the tendency to be negative all of the time. But I'm working on that...and it seems to be working.

Dream of preceiving. Of illumination and touch. Your wisdom is your illumination. She pokes you to wake you up to your wise self. The more immature is left in the dark.