[PeachCream22]

I've had frequent dreams about my ex...it's happened for quite a while now..fyi, we sort of broke contact recently.

There would be dreams about us making up for fights, and there'd be a general sense of well-being in the dream. Or there'd be dreams about us just talking as friends.

Or the most recent dream, we were at some sort of school prom. We had broken up, and he was trying to be friends with me but I was refusing and he kept coming back and coming back and eventually I yelled at him.

I assume these dreams are normal following a breakup? But I'd like to know what they mean, and what i can to make them STOP. is there some sort of residual feelings involved on my part? I do think about him a lot too. Trying my best to stop though.

[winter4me]

Let me know when you find out, I've been divorced years and still have dreams...they seem to come in clusters, lately it feels like a long time...
As for meaning, it, I think, can be part of grieving, of trying to "answer" questions you cannot answer, revisit hopes, trying to "see" the other...it is a great loss not only of what was but what might have been.

[Thunder Bow]

To Both of you:

Some times people break up for all the wrong reasons. Remember dreams are all about feelings. Winter4- you came closest to the truth in these dreams. Fear and Anger are the foundations.

Once the dust settles the true feelings surface through our dreams. Pay attention to them and learn from them.

[winter4me]

My strongest feeling is loss, and a great sadness that sits like a lake with a dam that might break someday but probably won't, I feel the pressure. I have always considered anger a secondary emotion, very useful for protection (say, when young/or in actual danger--depending on the situation} from vulnerability and the actual emotions/grieving associated with loss that is not "material", not useful in real life unless channeled into good work against injustice; even then, without compassion for the "enemy" (usually a system/set of beliefs accepted without true thought, rather than a person) it is unlikely you will get anywhere. When my anger explodes, I know I must be feeling very trapped, ineffective, and, yes, fearful.