[fireturtle]

I've had sexual dreams my entire life since I was a teenager going through puberty. My dreams have also always been incredibly realistic and quite frequent and as far as sexual dreams go I would probably get one about once a month or two. Sex in my dreams has felt real, in some cases better then real life, and the emotional feels of lust, passion, and happiness have also been strong.

Over the last year however, my sexual dreams have become much more intense, and I've also had a lot more sensual and lustful dreams as well. Dreams that might be just something like dating another woman and cuddling with her or going on dates with her. I feel so incredibly happy in my dreams, but the really weird thing is when I wake up I feel like I am on cloud 9 and can't seem to get my "dream girl" out my head. Just a week ago I had a dream I was dating an attractive blonde woman and we had gone to the movies for a date. She was cuddling me in the theatre, holding my arm and resting her head on my shoulder. I woke up right after that and felt incredibly happy. I had that feeling of infatuation, passion, and excitement you get at the start of any new relationship, but it wasn't going away. It took me a good 2 days before I was able to stop thinking about this dream girl, and the strong feelings of passion to finally subside. Likewise, I had a sexual dream with another woman about 3 weeks ago that when I woke up from I felt like I had just had the most awesome sex in my life and my body felt awesome just like I had orgasmed as well. It took me a couple days to get those awesome feelings and thoughts out of my head as well. The experience was so real, so amazing, and just unlike anything I ever experienced before... and it was all just a dream!

What do all these sensual and sexual dreams with other women mean? I am a male in my mid twenties and just got engaged to my long term girlfriend of 3.5 years. Our relationship is good, but like most relationships the initial "spark" and infatuation new couple has went away for us after about a year and a half replaced by a new and deeper love. I know in my mind it would be the most stupid mistake I could ever make to leave my fiance in search of another women, but getting to experience that feeling of passion all over again in my dreams makes me begin to realize why nearly 60% of married individuals will have an affair.

Are these types of dreams normal? Why have they gotten so much more intense and realistically awesome, and I'm also surprised at the large amount of just plain sensual dreams I've had where I'm simply just hanging around with a different woman and feel ecstatic about it. Any thoughts?

P.S. The women in my dreams are often people I never saw before. I would say only about 20% of the time do I dream about another woman that I know who it is. (Celebrity, co-worker, person I recognize, etc)

[gnat]

I've been monogamous with my husband for 20 years now. I do have sex dreams involving other people, sometimes people I know, sometimes people who as far as I know do not even exist, even about my husband. They feel very real, they are very fun, and I do think I orgasmed in my sleep once, heck, perhaps more but I rarely remember my dreams.

Dreams are dreams. Sure they may stem from a subconscious desire or worry, but I wouldn't think they are any indicator of how happy you will be in a relationship with just one person nor do they make you unfaithful. It's what you do in your waking hours that does matter.

Yes, the excitement of a lover's first touch doesn't return, but when you spend years with the same person your sex life can become more....well, let's just say i was a total prude when my husband and I first hooked up and I'm not so much anymore. With the trust and security we have with each other things have gotten a lot better, and they were good to start with. I wouldn't want to trade my current sex life for a lover's first touch.

And congrats on your engagement!

[niceguy]

It's pretty straightforward. You are missing the sexual passion in your current relationship, which is why you are acting it out in your mind (subconciously of course) - so either spice things up with your future Mrs. Or enjoy them for what they are... A good time