Recurring dream about a man I hardly know who's not my husband

Recurring dream about the same person
Hi everyone! I'm new to this forum. I'm hoping someone can help me understand a recurring dream. I am going to give you a brief description of me, how I dream and a long description of my most recent dream. So I'm sorry for the essay!

So I believe that dreams have meanings and have done since I have been a child. Mostly I'm the only person I know in my dreams. Sometimes I'm on my own, sometimes I'm with strangers. I do dream about people I know but it's rare. Sometimes I have dreams that come true - rarely about me or anyone I know but things that happen in the world like plane crashes, big fires etc.

I am married and have two children. I am in my late 20s. I am a bubbly outgoing person but lately I feel like I've lost some of my spark. I have a full time job - not the career I want to be in but I am really good at what I do.

So now to the dream .....

I keep dreaming about a guy. I don't know him really well, we've only met a few times in the last year. I keep dreaming about him ever since I met him the last time a couple of months ago.

I do think this guy is handsome and charming and we've had some nice chats when we met but that's all! I also respect what he does! He does a lot of public speaking and travels a lot! That's how I know him - I've been to events he has been working at.

So my dreams started at us just being friends.... a bit flirty but usually we would just be chatting and having fun! This went on for weeks (in my dreams). Not every night ... I would say he appears in my dreams 3 - 4 times a week.

The last couple of weeks it has been more intense and it ends up that we sleep together. So I will describe my dream from last night as I remember most of it.

This guy was public speaking with some other people and I was at the front. He invited some people up on stage - me included. He talked a little with everyone and then came to me last. He talked to me for ages and was flirting and putting his hand around me. When I went to sit down he came over to me again and was chatting to me for ages ...... then I woke up ..... it was the middle of the night so I eventually went back to sleep .... and continued to dream about him.....

this time the event was over and we had decided to go back to his hotel room - I told him nothing would happen ( not cos I'm married, in my dream Im single). We had to walk my friend home first (she sometimes comes to these events in real life). As we walk back she accidentally slips into the river, but then we realise that she didn't (very random). As we are walking I ask her to not tell anyone I am going to his hotel - she agrees.

After we drop her home we go to his hotel. It's really odd. It's a boutique type hotel with white French style furniture and the rooms and floors are different sizes, shapes, uneven. We go to his room separately - he goes first, I follow and I find it odd that we go downstairs to his room instead of upstairs. Even though I am dreaming I'm telling myself that I am only going back to his room as friends but as soon as we get to the room we get physical! It doesn't feel seedy in any way and it feels like it was meant to happen! It doesn't feel like a cheap one night stand - it's something we both want!

Then I woke up ..... it took me ages to realise this dream wasn't real. It basically echoes the other dreams that I've been having about this guy! When I wake up I feel so guilty because I think I've actually done it and it takes so long for me to realise I was only dreaming.

Can anyone interpret these dreams? I know it sounds strange but I feel like I'm cheating when I wake up and it's stressing me out! Does it have something to do with my relationship with my husband or does it mean something else? Thanks.

Well I guess you figured it out for yourself mostly.

Your dreams are all about you, and what you want.
It probably stems from what you are not receiving from your husband.
So your mind wanders to someone you think would fulfill your needs and desires.

You have two young children, you are working in an unfulfilling job, and it seems to be something lacking in your marriage.
It is okay to have fantasy dreams as long as they stay in dreamland.
Trust me the grass is not always greener on the other side.
People who marry early 20"s and have children reflect about 7-8 years and question is this the life I wanted. So this is normal for everyone no matter their age.

You can have the life you want but it takes work and communication.
Remember your children and what you want for them.
Nobody is totally fulfilled 100% all of the time.
Try to keep your emotions balanced in life, be aware of the positive things when your mind starts to wander into what you dont have.
Thanks for sharing, women have been brought up as being with one man, her husband but we also have a sexual appetite, wants of our own, and sometimes we need time just for ourselves.
Hope this helps,
Happiedasiy
PS. maybe enjoy dreams of many and not just the one.

Totally agree with the first comment. You're not happy with your job since it isn't exactly what you wanted. It seems something is missing in your marriage; your husband isn't fulfilling your needs and/or he isn't all you wish him to be. Maybe something is even missing from your life.

I'm not going to do it since I don't know all about your life, but you do. Since you remember most details, I would try to sit back one day & think of what little details in the dream could represent from your life. Some things may be direct reflections of others; either way they're all connected & it's important you know what they are.

Hope this helps!

Thanks for your replies!

Wow yeah that makes sense. I suppose I knew it deep down but just needed someone to spell it out for me.

I will certainly take your advice on board and I think I will analyse my dreams to see what exactly they are trying to tell me - apart from the obvious!

Being married is not easy!!!!

Thanks again!

I know just how that is...I think we all do

Yes, very true!

Very glad to help

Hope all is well

Dreams can be Mirrors. This guy in the dream is mirroring your behaviour and how you feel about it inside yourself. The dream is about your feelings when you are behaving this way like he does in the dreams.

I have been having this issue, myself, and it's disturbing. I'm becoming desperate for help and something to help me. Your answer to this person's issue is the most interesting I have found, honest, and probably the most useful. I think I know what to do now thanks to you. Thank you.

Thank You. This why I do what I do here.