[Justmedarkstar]

Yeah, so you're not supposed to dwell on the past. You're not supposed to let it affect you in your present life but dammit, it does! All those stupid, dangerous things you did come back to haunt you from out of nowhere. Sleep isn't even safe. Dreams with people from your past taunting you diving into your deepest sleep and you're hell bent to swim your way out of them. How do you get away from that? I suppose you come to terms with the fact that that was you then and now you have a whole new person to deal with, to teach, to learn, to develop and grow. Harumph I wrote about it in my journal but the dream is still haunting me. I'm letting it affect my day. I'm trying real hard not to but every time I turn around there it is.

[kaliope]

i can understand how a dream about the past would shake the foundation of your day. perhaps some mindfulness would take some of the edge off of it. i do a visualization where there is a door at the front of my mind and one at the back of my mind. the thoughts come in one door and out the other. the only mind i pay to them is to shove them through from one side to the other. i think it is the emotional attachment to the thought that bothers me so, so i dont dwell on it. i just acknowledge it long enough to say that that is something that needs to pass on oiut the back door. i may be pushing it through all day but as long as i see that i am pushing it through i dont attach to it. hope this helps.

[avlady]

Thats interesting i'll have to try it too!!

[Thunder Bow]

Please Enter your dream here, giving details if you can. We may be able to give you some insights.

[seeker1950]

Originally Posted by kaliope

i can understand how a dream about the past would shake the foundation of your day. perhaps some mindfulness would take some of the edge off of it. i do a visualization where there is a door at the front of my mind and one at the back of my mind. the thoughts come in one door and out the other. the only mind i pay to them is to shove them through from one side to the other. i think it is the emotional attachment to the thought that bothers me so, so i dont dwell on it. i just acknowledge it long enough to say that that is something that needs to pass on oiut the back door. i may be pushing it through all day but as long as i see that i am pushing it through i dont attach to it. hope this helps.

Kaliope...that's a great visualization. Thanks for sharing! I have various visualizations I have practiced over the years, but nothing like this one. I will adopt it as I feel it is powerful.

[seeker1950]

Originally Posted by Justmedarkstar

Yeah, so you're not supposed to dwell on the past. You're not supposed to let it affect you in your present life but dammit, it does! All those stupid, dangerous things you did come back to haunt you from out of nowhere. Sleep isn't even safe. Dreams with people from your past taunting you diving into your deepest sleep and you're hell bent to swim your way out of them. How do you get away from that? I suppose you come to terms with the fact that that was you then and now you have a whole new person to deal with, to teach, to learn, to develop and grow. Harumph I wrote about it in my journal but the dream is still haunting me. I'm letting it affect my day. I'm trying real hard not to but every time I turn around there it is.

Yes, well, I too have dreams harkening back to my past. Some of them are recurring dreams, and I just accept them for what they are....remembrances of a time in which I was helpless to change circumstances. Sometimes, though, I have darker dreams, like being stalked or abused (which I was), and also relinquishing my ability to make wise choices. After these dreams, I am dismayed, I admit, but I also recognize how this is my subconscious' methods of dealing with difficult life experiences. I manage to go on with my days. I hope you can too!

[Justmedarkstar]

Originally Posted by kaliope

i can understand how a dream about the past would shake the foundation of your day. perhaps some mindfulness would take some of the edge off of it. i do a visualization where there is a door at the front of my mind and one at the back of my mind. the thoughts come in one door and out the other. the only mind i pay to them is to shove them through from one side to the other. i think it is the emotional attachment to the thought that bothers me so, so i dont dwell on it. i just acknowledge it long enough to say that that is something that needs to pass on oiut the back door. i may be pushing it through all day but as long as i see that i am pushing it through i dont attach to it. hope this helps.

That's a great idea and very do-able. I love the door visual. Thanks