[doyoutrustme]

I also wonder if you bring up the dream in therapy.

For me, I bring it in maybe a quarter of the time. less even.. if it's not too mortifying, and if I find it will be helpful. I've brought in 2 T related dreams total.

[LittleBird42]

Yes I've had 2 dreams where my T featured. In the most recent one, I was in a little cave all by myself - I was bunched up as the cave was too small to stand. I could hear other people talking about how wonderful my 'T's' cave was. And I was able to see a very long and large cave, with amazing rock formations within it, that many other people had been in. The cave ran beneath his 'mansion', which I was also curious to see.

I really wanted to visit his cave. And then someone told me how his cave is open once a week.

And then he was bunched up inside my cave also. And he apologised for falsely accusing me of 'smoking' (?!)

I woke up and thought - gather the 'once a week' thing is my session!

I haven't mentioned it in therapy yet - too many Freudian aspects to it I think...

[BlueGreenTabbyCat]

I rarely dream with my therapist in my dreams. In fact it's rare anyone I know other than just people I see passing in the street or on the train and recognise as train/bus/street regulars, and when I do dream of anyone they seem to be busy getting on with their own lives and frustrated with not being able to because something has held them up. It's as if I have my own dream but others are at the edges also in their own dream and we don't really meet, just occasionally cross paths.

No one is really *with* me in my dream as much as passing through including my therapist who for the most part in my dreams is getting on with her life, visiting the shops to buy regular every day things (not that I can remember what though!) then she'll disappear without warning, not because anything terrible has happened (well not from her point of view anyway!) but because she has other things to get on with and like everyone else was just passing through.

I wont say I am sitting waiting for people in their dreams; I have my own agenda which always seems pretty pressing and vital (life and death vital) bit no one ever is there with me or to help me and anyone who by chance is on the same life-or-death mission as I am just seems to get in my way as I do with them.

I should add here; I don't seem to like my dreams, they always feel stressful and if the day itself didn't feel so overwhelming and stressful I'd probably like waking up and getting up in the morning!

[doyoutrustme]

I've been up to weekly. my brain is torturing me because the details are getting weirder and more embarrassing. i used to always tell him when he showed up, but it was occasional, and i knew what it meant from the get go. i don't need surprise Freudian weirdness. :/

Never ever. My therapists and I had professional relationships. When I left a session I thought no more about that person until next session. I've never had a dream about my dentist either thank god

[Perna]

Originally Posted by doyoutrustme

my brain is torturing me because the details are getting weirder and more embarrassing.

I figured one can't really fence sit with the dreams and discussed all of them. My brain/unconscious then got comfortable and worked with me and the three of us worked together well (3rd being T). I learned that when my husband or therapist showed up in my dreams that meant I was "safe" and could explore whatever the subject was and would look hard to untangle the "coding" or weirdness. As you have found, that would happen more and more the more I worked with it. The truth will out!

Even the embarrassing dreams; they are just dreams, just like the ones with monsters? I dreamed I had my head in my T's lap and she was running her fingers through my hair, soothing me, and in another dream I dreamed we were eating brunch at a restaurant next to a canal on a lazy Sunday and a dinosaur reared up in the canal (brontosaurus :-) and was chewing greens from the bottom, LOL. All of it ended up being helpful to me trying to understand myself. My T was a co-lesbian in one dream, with another, former group therapist I'd had many years before (both had been happily married with grown children, grandchildren, etc.). Laugh at the weird and enjoy your creativity and share it with T! It's all good.

[doyoutrustme]

i guess the ones that are getting intimate are too much for me. I'm glad to tell him when they're negative or scary or strange. even insulting. but the ones that involve nudity i would rather forget. i didn't even include them in my journal. :/

[Happy pills]

It would be nice if he showed up to the session never mind the dream

Interesting question. Never thought of it. I have never had a dream with her in it. She is kind of a serious person.

[LucyD]

I've never dreamed of any of my therapists. I don't know what that means either.